God man ... gawd ... zentrode you know much better ! this will probably be a sum up to other replies but you ask me to give my thought ... here ya go:
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My girlfriend recently broke up with me. This came to me as a shock and I was really hurt. It happened two weeks ago. However, yesterday my friend told me that my girlfriend broke up with me only because someone told her that I was gonna break up with HER.
If she believes someone other than you, she doesn't love you at all - she doesn't trust or love you and take another ones word for granted. You broke up when she believed this guy/girl/rumor , not when she really broke up. im sorry for your loss tho.....
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This made her really paranoid so she hurried up to break up with me first. So fucking immature. And afterwards, she went around and told everybody this: "I broke up with him before he had a chance to break up with me! I WON! Yaay!!"
Why do you want a paranoid immature GF at all ? this would even make it better for you because now you realise how dumb/ignorant she really is.
Lol she is seeking confirmation from other people by telling them she broke up with you LOL dude SHE IS FUCKED UP do you really think we are the only one calling her immature ? some of her friends would think that as well .. she isn't authentic or really herself, i would say she got no personality at all.
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.... This little incident has completely killed my personal pride and manlihood. I feel worthless. So this is what I was planning on doing:
DUDE ... fuck pride ! pride isn't going to get you anywhere ! like the fucking samurai code : we fight until we die and then we suicide before we can be killed by our foe's. i would fucking forget the suicide and try to kill a few foes or run so i can get them later. First of all there is no place for pride and pride only makes you weaker - by having pride you can only loose it by yourself. SHE CAN'T TAKE YOUR PRIDE AWAY you can only fucked up hynotize yourself to that certain thought. WHen im going to step into the ring i don't have pride at all because pride is a weakness which can be exploited. Fuck pride .. GO self respect.
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I know her weaknesses really well
yeah me to ... lets make a list:
1. She's immature
2. over-superstitious
3. Believes the shit that people tell her
4. meaning she probably has no thought of her own
5. to me this results in low quality
She is like a fucking american ballistic missile who got confused and fly flied to the israelian border.
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and I know that I have the power to take her back. So I was thinking: I talk to her and fix this problem - she takes me back. Then, I wait 2 or 3 days - and then break up with her. It won't crush her - but it will help me.
This will bring my pride back and I will finally be able to move in life. Right now - I feel worthless and I feel as a failure for allowing something like this to happen.
This won't get your pride back ... because for a start you will lower yourself to her level, you will act immature, you will have no thought of your own because you are so affected by her ( dude don't give a shit about what she said/did). you actually will give up the only pride you have by taking revenge - taking revenge is merely a sign of your incompetence to deal with the problem or your own emotions.
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Right now - I feel worthless and I feel as a failure for allowing something like this to happen... I will feel bad for the rest of my life if I leave our break-up as it is now and do nothing about it..
dude you aren not responsible ... she's just ignorant and dumb enough to believe the tabloids. what if you meet a HOT rich mature cool girl tommorow which represents everything you are looking for ? would you still feel bad or like a failure ? would you forget your ex in a instant ? lol i would.... and by the way won't you feel bad all your life if you take revenge ?
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How come I don't know? Because I'm blinded with rage and a broken heart. This is why I wanted you to go easy on me. If I wasn't madly in love - I would be able to slap myself out of this and see the reality. But you guys know how it is to be in love. You lose the sense of reality and start doing crazy shit.
self-hynotizing same with feeling like shit and doing crazy shit .. self-hyptnotizing, you think until you really believe , you repeat those negative unrealistic thoughts until you beleive them -----> believing is living up to it --- > is performing that shit in real life. You said you wasn't madly in love in the first place so you can't have a broken heart lol. This sounds stupid but you only fall in love until you allow yourself to and yes you lose the sense of reality, get some reality back into your life - do shit which ground you back to reality, back to earth.
dude i've done much worse shit ....one example : i had the same problem like you a few years ago but multiplied 1000 times. i once was so depressed that i literally decided to carry a knife for the moment when i see my ex again - i seriously considered/imagining stabbing her. after all(right now) i know i couldn't do something like that i was blinded by rage and bad emotions.
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Yes, I do love her. But she's not the girl for me. I never want her back - it's better like this. It's just the feeling of love that fucks my mind up.
that makes some sense, however it's funny how your little act of revenge is based on wanting her back, decide what you really want but don't do it when you are emotional.
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just find another girl and move on
no .. your weakness is your strongest weapon, those bad emotions are red flags which you can capitalize on. Those red flags show the unsatisfying traits in your mind - now you can work on those and improve you inner game. Mistakes are the start of personal growth , right now you are more mature than her - don't perform these revenge-actions and compromise what you really stand for, don't give up your maturity.
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Just get my revenge and then get the hell out of there
iraq war( in context) : let's just take revenge rush in and do some damage to decrease their nuclear exploits. the surge took a few years, people really believed that the complete war to rebuilding only took 6 months.... they were there for years lol. If you gonna take revenge you could get stuck on there, after a week you could be sorry for performing such action thus you are adding guilt to your range of bad emotions. DON't compromise yourself to this vulnerablity.....
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I'm going to a party tomorrow, and she's gonna be there.... I just KNOW that she's gonna try and make me jealous by making out with other guys. This is what makes me so pissed that I want to do this thing.
yeah don't forget to have fun, life is quitte boring if it consists out of revenge and anger.
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but I'm still trying to see this from a logical perspective.
there is nothing logical about it, immature people act out of ingorance and emotion. you don't have to fully understand the process you only have to give it a certain personal judgement or coverage. Don't try to look what's logical about her and start looking what's logical about yourself. How about you move on right now instead of seeing moving on as a alternative?
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You know man... You are absolutely right. In fact, I would rate her as the worst girlfriend I've had so far.
that's why you should not lower yourself to her level, and it's not about who's right or not right.
YOur thought and emotions have to be lined up otherwise you will believe stupid shit that you or other people will tell you ( thank god smart people here) It's not what others think of you it's what you think of YOU.
Happiness comes from yourself and not from taking revenge, open up those curtains to see the sunrise dude.
if you don't know how to act or what to do... then DON'T ACT put your brain in the freezer for a while and start meditating.
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hugo stiglitz is like your fucking ego but more badass ... alot of people will get hurt if you lose control, one desire to shoot someone in the balls could bite back- karma.
if you feel like your going to do stupid stuff go watch this..self composture!
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this book has keep me from doing harm to others and prevented me from lowering to other peoples beliefs.
http://www.amazon.com/Ruling-Your-World ... 219&sr=1-5