| Get her in a good mood by spending a great day together, maybe on a weekend where you can spend a whole day doing something that she finds fun and romantic. Take her to a museum or out shopping or something that she enjoys. This will build your pair bond and she'll be more receptive to opening up to you for sex later. You have to plan this day so that there are no interruptions, no annoying chatty friends ruining your game, no appointments or exams to study for - just make this a special day all about her.
While you are out enjoying your day, be physical with her and start kino escalation. You want her to see you as a sexual object. Touch her and make her touch you back. Use some simple compliance tests to see if she is receptive, then escalate to more intimate touching. Start off simple, like holding out your hands and seeing if she grabs them and hangs on. Spin her around in a little dance pirouette. Later, if she passes these compliance tests, tell her she has something on her ass and then offer to wipe it off for her in a playful way. Run your hand up her back and if she bends down to tie her shoe or something. Sit close together and place your leg touching hers when you're sitting down having lunch. If she doesn't recoil, continue to escalate. Remember to pull away occasionally and make her miss the touching. She'll want it after you initiate it, but if you pull it away it will build sexual tension. Then when she gets it again, it will be like a reward and will make her feel really good.
Plan ahead where you're going to take her. Best to keep her isolated from friends and outside influences and move her from location to location (bridging). This builds excitement and helps her lose sense of time, keeps the focus solely on you. Make sure whatever you do, there are plenty of new experiences that she can look forward to, and experiences she can think back to and remember that she did with you and only you. If she's never been ice skating at the local skating pond, take her there and she'll remember it for the rest of her life because you're the one guy who took her ice skating (even if both of you spend the whole time on your butts - all the better, lots of opportunity for touching).
Keep the talking going the whole time. A day filled with lots of talking, funny jokes, shared experiences, and moving from venue to venue is like gold. While you're out enjoying your day, talk about all the things you're *going* to do with her, like take her to a movie she wants to see or go to the beach this summer whatever. In her mind, she's thinking about a future between the two of you which deepens your pair bond but also makes her instinctually open up to sex with you (in cave man times, you'd be there for her to look after her during pregnancy and child rearing)
Once you're back at home, after dinner and any responsibilities and possible interruptions are behind you (deal with annoying roommates, politely turn away drop-in visitors, turn off cell phones, etc), put on some smooth music continue to talking and start physical escalation. Start with kissing and a little gentle groping and see how it goes. If she is responsive, take it a little further. Continue to escalate. If she wants it, she will respond and you'll get what you want.
If she doesn't want it, you either haven't demonstrated enough value, there's something small about your outer game that's not working, or she LMRs you and you don't have a good comeback to get her past it. She might not go for sex that first night, but she will have a memory of a great day with you and that could help your game.
If sex is important to you and after all this she's still not putting out, then consider the fact that this might not be the right girl for you and move on. Remember, whatever happens it's NO BIG DEAL.
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