Hi y'all.

Im currently at the highest level of pickup i'v ever been to.
I feel I can get me any girl I want. Now iv just started a relationship with a new gf.shes pretty hot and I like her a lot, shes great.

2 problems -

1st Problem is - im scared.im scared of losing it. Im like "what if we'll be together for a few months and I wont be as good as im right now?"

2nd - there are so many hot girls out there and I can get anyone, but if i'll have an LTR , I wont be able to hit on them...and its too hard for me..
I trained myself to almost automatically open.I see my target, get her at a glance and throw an opener.

What do you guys say? I need some words of cheer

Regards,
pua19.

1. If you strongly believe in the fear of "losing it" - you will lose it. Change your mindset, it sucks.

2. You can still open sets and practice. It's called "socializing". Just make sure you don't cheat on your girlfriend. Keep it casual and that's it.

Congratulations on your relationship by the way.

Zentrode.

no offense.... this is not meant to be an insult or attack....
your pickup game is good ( enough ) because you have results...
you also have results : im scared.im scared of losing it.'''
your pickup skills grow but your inner game is not developed / fucking sucks ( pardon my french) High pcikup skill is pickup skill, it isn't inner game skill or mindset skill or whatever.
I WONT BE AS GOOD ?!?!? .... insecurity issues --- > inner game .... ask yourself this : will she be good over a few months ?( you are already doubting this but you don't realise it yet ) dude if you think like this you already sabotaged your relationship.
that's right.. you picked her up she didn't pick you up... you deserved HER and you worked up to that certain result.
you are one of those guys ; when this relationship ends you gonna be fucked up and you will be like ''fuck it''.....

take things one step at the time dude ... invest into your relationship but don't overdo it, it's like ying-yang keep it balanced.

not that im harsh but i don't congrat people ... il congrat you if you get married

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lol its not about inner game beleive me ...
Pickups like sports -if you stop training you become less and less good at this.
Nowadays my toungue is sharp as a knife. Im slick. im at a pickup mindstate.
as soon as I lose that mind state and stop thinkin about how amI goin to fuck every girl I see cuz I have a gf now , I'll lose it , you'll lose it , so as the biggest guys around would. Its not about how good you are. Its just that im in a row for the last few months.

when i was in an LTR, i always used to game girls up to a number close just to have as mates and if my LTR didn't work out i had some girls there. Also i agree with some of the other guys. if you are worrid about losing it, you are clearly self conscious she will leave you which is the wrong mind set to be in.

actually i don't believe you, but i see you got your own opinion.
dude you are talking about picking up but im talking about relationships because you have posted in the relationship section, so the first thing i do is talking in a relationship perspective.
maybe i didn't not verbally communicate my point clearly enough.

Look i said you have probably good pickup skills because you have results ... hot girls , however you are afraid when you have a GF your skills will become less.
This mindset will not only sabotage a relationship but it derives from insecurity -- > you are afraid of losing something.
Now you lay emphasis on your pickup skill and that's fine you are number one in your own life, but do realise you can't go into a healthy relationship with a half-headed mindset of '' if i go with her my skills degrade''

second of all ... you are somehow right about the sports-pickup methaphor, if you stop training you get less. However you have a base, an athlete who didn't train for many months will get back to his level faster than someone who is starting out from the start - Because you already have important field experience.
3th of all ... what if your inner game is very sophisticated ? you are so confident that you refuse to believe your game will degrade if you don't game ( when having GF)
Your GF can provide you valuable psychological info on how woman think, the more you will be around woman the more you calibrate and get batter with them.
Therefore being around your GF is a valuable source on developing skills and inner game as long you stick to your own reality to some degree.
you see ... every disadvantage has an advantage.

if you got a hot girl then you got what you want, as i am reading your texts i can only tell you you are probably doubting about having a relationship or having a free sex life. having a GF contributes to your sex life, what is the different between her pussy and another pussy ( both hot girls ). there is no difference - only skill on how to fuck .....
You only lose it when you allow yourself to lose it , if you are thinking you are going to lose it then you are going to lose it -- >until you make a change. Right now the way you are talking i can see you are describing yourself as not-trustworthy in a relationship because you are afraid of losing skills and you want to fuck other girls you are open relationship material.

CONFLICT PROBLEM : you already started a relationship ......
lol so you got the image stuck in your head ..... The biggest guys in the world WONT lose it. Do you think dalai lama will lose it ? do you think nelson mandela will lose it ? dude you are stuck in some reality where you think every big guy will lose it, i didn't lose it and i ain't the biggest, if i don't lose they don't lost''it''. funny because you are contradicting yourself....

and it all derives from insecurity or a hole in your inner game , if you are so secure about yourself and your pickup skills then why do you post onto this board to get confirmation/approval from us ? why don't you go like '' i don't give a fuck.. il get GF and il game other girls without cheating'' you got a question and you don't realise you already got the answer yourself ... go live life dude.

the title of your post :'' i got a new GF and im freaking scared'' says enough
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peace

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Seriously kid, you should try to listen.. you came here for help right? what did you came here for? Lodewijkp with his awesome picture... well.. i dont even need to talk.. he has said it all man...

Though there is something that has been missing from the thread..

Pick up.. is just a tool, to get exactly the girl you want... Now you got a GF which for you now, is the best girl (you think) for you right.. She got the qualities you want ect..
So you settle down with this girl.. untill you find out she is not for you.. And then you get back in the field...

You have a beautful skill.. you have gotten exactly the girl you want... you are not satisfied with getting the next best.. you got the best for you ... and she got the best man in the world..

So all the pick up was worth it.. now you gotta find out if this girl is the girl that you want to be with your side for the rest of the life...

IT might be, or it might not be her.. but atleast you find out..

But what do you want to do? You wanna keep looking? Keep looking.. because you get laid when you keep looking.. so you wanna keep looking..

Why keep looking if you have found the best girl (for the moment)? Dont man..

Discovery the beauty of being in a relationship with a girl.. take it serious.. get your shit together.. man up.. and enjoy the ride.. and may it last forever!..


Pick up is a tool to get exactly what you want... then you gotta know how to keep her, and there pick up wont help you.. but inner game / and well.. just beeing who you are that the beauty of relationships.. so chiiillll man.. so take it chiiilll

Bro, congrats on your relationship, but as Zentrode said, change your mindset!
remember that your the sh*t no matter what, and enjoy your girl!
I was thinking the same wen i first started dating mine, but now I cant get enough of her!

Good luck and DONT CHEAT! Just cause you can doesnt make it right.
Legacy

Listen to these guys, I still feel you have a lot to learn from what you've posted. You will realise all this in due time

good luck!