Hey guys, I posted before about this girl I met in uni. We talk very often, and almost always meet up on our breaks and whatnot. Like i've said we've been clubbing, movies etc.., with friends though. This christmas break I told her that I liked her and I would like to take her out this weekend, and that she could say no if she wanted too. That was a bad move on my part, but I was really nervous, even though I've known her for like 5 months already. She replied: I never said no, I'll see. She neevr brought it up, until I texted her: So are you going to answer my quesiton or not? she never answered back. I asked her again, she said: No can't this weekend.
I gave her the cold SPAM for a week, then she texted me happy new years. When school started back, she started texting me again to meet up and chill. So since the start of this semster we chill during our breaks, and we go out for lunch just me and her. Anytime we go out I offer to pay for her food, and I kinda alsways do, even though she refuses. I know its an AFC move... The thing is she is kinda flirting with me. It's hard to explain but she always talks about sex and thing around me, and how she wants it real bad. I replied, I know I'm sexy, but you don't need to think about sex around me. She also thinks I'm sexy, shes told me this. Btw, she keeps talking about her ex, and how hes starting to phone her again. I think she still likes him. But this might sound, cocky, but he has nothing on me, like seriously.
I want her real bad, like as a gf. I don't even know how to go for the kiss close or anything. Please help me guys, I really don't know what to do. I hope I'm not friendzoned... So help please!!!!!!

So you're afraid of getting in to the friendszone? But on the on the other hand you don't want her to think about sex around you?

Its very clear to me thats she is attracted to you. And thats absolutely not a bad thing. You're not in friendszone!

Be convinced that's she into you!

it was a neg, when I said the thing about sex. Of course I want her to think about sex around me. But the thing is, she also flakes on me sometimes. Like she would ask me to go somewhere with her, then i would phone her and she would come up with an excuse. My question is what do I do with this girl now? Whats the next move?

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what do I do? there is this other guy gaming on her like crazy too, but in the looks department he has nothing on me, but he knows lots of girls. I see him frequently, and is my partner in one of my classes.

DUDE!
You sounds like she's the one gaming you, she's got it all you buy her stuff treat her like she's a princess and she gets to firt with any man she wants. To be honest I'm not liking the sound of this girl - but lets asume that she is nice...

How long to you freese her out for?

Option 1.
Use her as social proof to show other women that you have value and then hit on them. This will of course bring her running to you. Be strong young jedi, or at least make her work REALLY hard for it

Option 2.
Call on her it... say "you only like having me around cos I do stuff for you, now I can see that I can see what a manipulating bitch you are and that you never had any intention of really liking me." Seems harsh but and she will be hurt, but you have the golden-get-out-of-jail-card. She will probably go f*cking nuts at you. Be strong and just say "well I never imagined you were such a bitch" look at her like you are going to kiss her and do the whole slow-down smooth out about to kiss you thing.
At this stage you've got her trapped and she will have to kiss you to regain her self esteme.

This takes some balls to do - but it will work. If you know about Maslow's Hierachy of needs.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s ... y_of_needs
If you knock someone down a level they will want to get back to the level they were before.

Option 3.
Forget her.

Option 4.
Carry on being a chump and feel the pain as this other guy takes her out and sleeps with her.


If I was you Option 1. Seems like the path the happiness.

Last night, we were supposed to chill, but I couldn't for various reasons. She ends up going to a club with the same guy as above. Shes texts me in the club about random stuff, like she saw a guy I know. I replied: I know you like texting me but go have fun. In the morning, she starts chatting with me, I take a long time to reply, then she just ends up being kind of cold. What do I do? Should I ignore her for a bit or what? This girl is seriously driving me crazy. For example, I've invited her to bars to chill, and shes like I don't like going to bars, yet last night she ended up going to a bar/club. Should I confront her on this or what? Man I'm confused.

Dude sounds like your AFC ways have landed you straight in the "friendzone" HARD LUCK!

dude, just think to yourself, your the prize, YOU are awesome! SHE wants YOU!

As soon as you stop caring she will "realize" what she had. like a massive neg

Because you say you always pay for her, yet she wont go out with you etc. I think that this girl is just using you.

You've played it pretty much the opposite of how you should have done it bro, and I'm not being a dick saying that.

She keeps texting you to keep you 'warm' so that you dont forget about her and that she can take advantage of you again.

You're better off without this girl in your life man.

Ya I'm going to ignore her for a bit. Btw, does this sound good, I was planning on asking her this, this week, and if she says no, then forget about her.

Me:There is this girl i really like, and I want to ask her out for St-Valentines, since it's coming up. Should I phone her or text her?
Her: Phone
Me: ok. let me phone her

I then call her cell, and ask her. Is that good? Or just forget about asking her out at all? Like I want to give it a last try, then I'm prob going to ignore her.

Even if this girl is an 11.5, for your own sake move on. Don't speak to her, text her, think about her for 30 days

...in this time approach at least 10 girls using PUA 101 stuff - you will have forgotten her by girl number 6.

Your opener is

"Hi I'm looking for a female perspective. I have this friend and he really likes this girl, and he does all this nice stuff for her. She seems interested but won't go on a proper date with him. What should he do?"

Girls love this sort of thing. Plus you will find out what is going on from a woman's perspective.

K, so yesterday she texts me saying that she wants to chill, so we chill for a bit. Later on I was on fb, and noticed her wall was a little blank so I posted something, when I came home and checked she deleted it. Today we usually chill together, she didn't phone or text or anything. Do I just completely ignore he calls, texts, messages from now on? Like Just blank her out completely for like a month even though she texts and whatnot????????

LEAVE THIS GIRL ALONE

I'm guessing you are in your teens. When I was a school I was messed up with a girl who once showed me some interest. All that happened was that I looked like a looser to her and ruined my chances with some other lovely girls who'd asked me out

If you picture yourself in 3 years time giving yourself advise, what would you say to yourself about this?

That's the thing, I want to leave her alone, but do I just plain out ignore her when she calls or texts and whatnot, or just answer her calls and texts but show indifference to her?
Edit: she started texting me again. I relaly need your help!! Do i reply or not?

Don't even bother texting back. She isn't worth it!! IMO it seems she's just using you, she just hits you up when she needs attention Like redrooster and Chillburg said, drop her. You won't regret it!