| Hi everyone,
this is my first post on this forum. I'm in need of a little advice here.
State of the game :
First night (Clubbing)
I succesfully build up attraction with a girl after building high percieved social value at this venue.
We danced, flirted, and kino escalation ended up on kissing. I was getting alot of IOI she insisted on giving me her phone number, and that she wanted to see me again tomorrow.
Next day
She comes to my place, away from the big city. I try to build up confort by walking her around the lake shore and showing her around (she's been in my country for only two weeks, and planes to stay here for one year).
She spontaniously held my hand at first. When I kissed her around the lakeshore, she was complying and seemed thrilled. But at the same time, she seemed to be a little "passive" : which I first attributed to her character.
We walk back to my place and continue to flirt and talk. her passivity continues up to a point where I ask her if she feels confortable : she then replies that she dosn't, that she had a very bad break up with her ex boyfriend. she tells me that she dosn't know, maybe we should just stay friends, that she isnt ready, etc.
At this point i'm wondering : Is she wondering about me ? or is her mind still hacked by her rupture.
I kinda freezed out, started talking about random topics, and accompanied her back to the train station.
I then reason using game theory : I am in a win win situation if I use the freeze-out and puting her in my friendzone before she does : she's a nice girl (HB7) with alot of free time so she can add some preselection value in clubs and such. It might backfire for her as well, because she might feel a sens a loss. And it is better for my innergame.
Last thing I did was on the next day to send her a message with a hard neg telling her she's like a ittle sister for me, and that we can always go out to join the nightlife together as friends. (Since she's been in the country for a short period, she needs to build up a social circle) So this confirms my freeze out.
Since I have never been confronted to this situation I would be glad to hear any advice on what could have messed up, what approch should I take, and what errors I made in my game.
thanks,
C.
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