| First off, I'd say the man difference between a female wing and a male wing is the difference between night and day. If one of my female friends invites me out to do just about anything where there is likely to be good looking women, I'm going to go - I don't care if I have the flu or just broke something on my body, I'll go because it's a gold mine. Whereas, there are times when I feel like going out, but the only person I can get to go with me are friends (male) who are clueless, and I know I'll be doing all of the work and, even worse, trying to recover from stupid situations or things they say/create by being clueless.
The rules for a female wing vary greatly, and since I've been studying the PUA lifestyle, I've only used them a couple of times, but long before I discovered the game, I loved going out with my female friends. In general, going out with a bunch of chicks means that even if you go home alone, you're probably going to have a bad ass time anyways, because the girls go out to have fun, whereas most men go out to either get drunk or get laid, and take themselves much to seriously while doing it.
Past experiences have taught me that depending on the chick you're heading out with (if you're only heading out with one), you either tell them exactly what to expect from you (and what you expect of them), or your practice the game you're going to use on them - all while you're heading to the venue. Most of my female friends are mega cool, so I'll straight tell them "I'm going to be trying some new shit tonight, so what would you say if I came up to you and said (insert opener here)". Depending on their answer, I'll use that when I bring them into another set. "My friend here is of the opinion that (blah blah blah), but I think she's crazy, what do you think (blah blah blah)?". This way her response is natural, whereas I'm one of the guys that can BS my way through anything.
If your female friend is shy, use it. Go around the venue introducing HER to other sets. "Hey, have you met my friend so-and-so? She's a little shy, but is just so awesome blah blah blah", but you need to make it a half joke - elbow her in the ribs and smile when you say she's shy. If she's not shy, if she's one of those girls that is immediate friends with anyone, send her in ahead of you (or use the shy routine anyways). Go order a drink or head to the bathroom, and when you come back looking for her, and she's in the set you want - boom, that set is now open to you too. From there, keep the conversation she has going until it's done, or cut it off like "Sorry to interrupt, but I gotta ask, cause this has been bothering me all night, my friend here thinks (whatever), but I just don't get it. What do you think about (whatever)". I'm a big opinion opener guy cause that's just how I am naturally - I truly want to know what people think of the world.
The best thing about a female wing, and it's been said many times in most of the PUA literature, is if you bomb that night, you just might hook up with her. I can speak from experience on this - one of the best wings I ever had was a bisexual chick that used to love dragging me to gay clubs. I was resistant at first, but then I went one bored Friday night, and it was like a damn dream come true - hot chicks EVERYWHERE and hardly anyone hitting on them (this is especially true because it was here in Texas where the majority of the 'players' wouldn't be caught dead in a gay club). Needless to say, I did pretty good during that time in my life, and there were times when we both came home alone, only to end up at the others place for the night. Had I discovered the game back then, that would have been the year I looked back to on my deathbed, but, even still, it was one of the best times of my life, and I was going through it as clueless as any AFC on this forum.
As far as making it obvious she's just a friend, I never do that, and never have. I used to have a friend that would say, at the VERY beginning, "We're just friends" or "Don't worry, we're not dating" and it DESTROYED the set. Just destroyed it. I joke about everything, so if I get asked, I'll skirt the issue if I can't ignore it outright. Say things like "Girlfriend!? This is my grandma!" or "Girlfriend? Nah, this is my ex-wife" or "Girlfriend? Nah, she isn't willing to share me". All those have to be delivered as a joke, at least for me, cause that's what I'd naturally say anyways. I do know that making it obvious from the beginning that you're just friends will kill you in a set - might as well be there with a guy. Later on, obviously, you'll want to make it known, but that's after you've opened them and got the situation further along.
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