Hi guys! I need some advice here:

I met this HB8 over a year ago. We seldom contact and were just friends on Facebook. Until few days ago I met her in person and I decided to hit on her.
So we exchanged phone number and started to text and chat on msn.

I asked her for a meet up the next day. She agree and we met for an hour at a coffee shop. After the meet up, we flirt through text. We then agree to have a date 2 days later.
During the date, i think i went a bit overboard. I was hugging her during the meal and putting my arm over her shoulder while we walk, like holding her close to me. Halfway through
the date, she told me:

"Im not comfortable with this. It's only our first date. From your actions, i think you are a player right?"

I immediately respond: "Me? A player? You just told me you have more relationships in the past than you could remember. So are you "playing" me now?"

So now she have her guard up on me now. So how do I break the shield?

Pat yourself on the back for identifying your mistake. You just became a better PUA from that experience.

When you go on day 3, back off a bit. You pushed too much, use day 3 to pull with very little push. The push will still be there but a bare minimum.

Thats a good response! kudos to you !

Be casual with her and pull back the Kino for now a little. I would have advised differently if I knew a little more about how comfortable you are in taking things sexually. So I dont want to ruin it for you and advise pulling back the kino a little more and adding humor to your conv. which I know you have from your response.

The idea is to make her comfortable in your presence, build trust and make HER WANT you.

Thanks for the replies. I think I should do slow for now. But when can I touch her again?

You can start as early as day 4 depending how it went on day 3. On day 4 I would suggest using only small amounts kino instead of full on arm wrapped around the shoulder, only to reward her though. And watching for IOIs is a big one

Haha, apologies I just found that a little hilarious.. euphism ftw ^^,

Personally I agree with the others, it seems that you probably went from no kino to "kino'd as fuck." So, on day 3 I would cut the kino and let it escalate, a small hit on the arm after a joke wouldn't hurt. Just play it kool.

Good job on identifying your own problem though

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I would stand her up on the next date to punish her for suggesting such a thing. After making her wait for an hour; you better make up a good reason for not showing up though. That whole hour she will be thinking of what she did wrong. She will then continue thinking about you and hating herself for "putting her guard up". That should do the trick...

although idk... i wasn't there... if u did to much kino you could have freaked her out. in which case she would forget about you. It sounds like you saved yourself but that is strike one in her mind.

Perhaps just seem less interested. start a text convo and reply with one word responses like "eh"... or "cool"... "alright"... and then say you have to go.