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PostPosted: Fri Jan 22, 2010 2:43 pm 
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This has happened quite a few times, and I feel self concious of it now. I try so hard not to let it show, but I've gotten this "eww no way" look from girls at clubs or when approaching in the past and I uploaded my pic onto HotorNot as suggested on this forum. I only got like a 7.1 and that sucks because I saw other guys I personally didn't consider good looking that were like 8 or 9's.

I dress nicely, I always smile and act confidently when I'm out and about but it just sucks because deep in the back of my mind I see that 7 stuck there and all those "blechh" faces replaying.


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It's all in your head. As long as you are confident and dress nicely and don't stink then looks really don't matter


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I had these profiles to on some websites. They gave me constantly 8 or 9's. When I went out I alway's had some chicks trying to caught my intention. I received compliments from girls in my class from time to time. But yet there I was: never kissed a girl once and of course still a virgin.

Looks doesn't mather at all. Because I saw constantly tons of badlooking guy's who were closing the deal.

If I were you I would stop to compare yourself to other guy's. There is no need to do that.


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Looks don't matter, I got a big forehead and still manage to game chicks. Clubs are a totally different environment though it's cut-throat. Some women are there to break-balls and shit test guys like crazy. If you can maintain your cool, you can have sex with that girl or number close her easy. When they say eww, its just their way of saying they think they are of higher status.


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Cmon young man !
I'm not going to say that looks don't matter at all.
They do matter but not like you think they do.Good looks give you a fair advantage above the other guys at the club/bar.If you don't have the looks , fine. Develop other qualities : being fun , being cool , being confident all that.I strongly believe that most women want a confident cool man than a model without any personality.

I would also like to add that you shouldn't be worried about your physical beauty rather the way you dress and your body language.Dress cool and go in with great energy and confidence and even when you get the 'bleh' look you should continue because some women use it as shit test , a confident man doesn't get thrown off by women giving him looks because he's too cool to care.


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PostPosted: Sat Jan 23, 2010 9:17 pm 
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dude.

ask any PUA! to rate their looks out of ten they would say ten. like cocky funny.

My friend said it so much and believed he was awesome so much he actually put it in his head and believed it. THAT IS CONFIDENCE.

Believe you are awesome and you are! belive you are the best looking guy in the world and you will be :D


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ask any PUA! to rate their looks out of ten they would say ten. like cocky funny.

My friend said it so much and believed he was awesome so much he actually put it in his head and believed it. THAT IS CONFIDENCE.

Believe you are awesome and you are! belive you are the best looking guy in the world and you will be :D
Amen sir , amen.

R. Kelly. - I Believe I Can Fly " If you just believe it , there's nothing to it."


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Hot or Not can be very deceiving.

People I know have put up 10 or so different pictures, and the lighting, background, what they were wearing, etc. all were factors in it, and they were between 4's and 9's for ranks.

Plus, it really doesn't matter too much. Just look clean, and have some sense of fashion, and try to have some things like weight and body hair under control and you'll be fine.

If you don't have weight under control, start eating better and exercising. It'll do two things. 1: It'll make you more attractive on the outside. 2: It'll make you feel more confident and better about yourself. I started a bit ago and have dropped 5 lbs in 2 weeks and feel great! (Note, not saying this is the case with you, just noting it for others who may be reading)


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ask any PUA! to rate their looks out of ten they would say ten. like cocky funny.
Nope, eleven! ;)


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ask any PUA! to rate their looks out of ten they would say ten. like cocky funny.
Nope, eleven! ;)
Ha! "Mine goes to eleven..."

Anyway, just wanted to relate a true story for the OP. This happened just a few months ago, before I was with my current girlfriend.

I was at my usual karaoke spot, where I have huge social proof. I know all the bartenders, know the KJ, know all the regulars, sing, dance... Hell, screw the social proof, it's just a great time.

Anyway, long story short: New girl comes in. I run solid game, number-close, but didn't go much further than that. She still comes to the spot, I still talk to her, and now one night, this 50-ish-year-old short, stocky, balding guy keeps hitting on her. Couple weeks later, guess who she's making out with? Yep, the attractive and in-shape 29-year-old blonde is going home with 20-years-older JOE SIXPACK. Imagine George from Seinfeld, but if he was a tough guy from Brooklyn.

Epilogue: She has since moved on, still goes to the spot, I still sing with her. She knows my girlfriend now. Everybody's happy.

Moral of the story: Being "good-looking" has nothing to do with it except in how you let it affect your perceptions. The only way it matters is if you believe that it matters.

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...50-ish-year-old short, stocky, balding guy keeps hitting on her...Moral of the story: Being "good-looking" has nothing to do with it except in how you let it affect your perceptions. The only way it matters is if you believe that it matters.
I think the morale of the story is PERSISTENCE. He was persistent, and went through all her shit tests, and became her fuck buddy without the damn strings attached of a relationship.

I'm working on trying to be persistent, I keep on getting trapped into being a BOYFRIEND prospect which takes so freaking long to get laid, rather then a guy who she can fuck without any strings attached.


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u guys say it doesnt matter but everyone here is rating girls from 1- 10.. most guys here wouldnt go for a 5 even if she dressed clean and had good game.. huh?


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u guys say it doesnt matter but everyone here is rating girls from 1- 10.. most guys here wouldnt go for a 5 even if she dressed clean and had good game.. huh?
Not everyone rates girls. When they do, sometimes those ratings are skewed by perceptions of things other than looks. Guys use ratings in telling a story to convey degrees of attraction or generalized attitudes about girls (ie hb10 = overconfident, extremely selective, relies on her looks)

Like David DeAngelo said, the only ratings that really matter are 1 and 0. You would or you wouldn't.

I dated a girl a couple years ago who was pretty chubby. But she had a great smile and gorgeous eyes and a bunch of other qualities that I valued. Who knows what someone else might "rate" her? Who cares?

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PostPosted: Mon Jan 25, 2010 11:22 am 
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Amen sir , amen.
Thanks man!

And i dont wanna show off but im about a 12 :D i was offered the hottest guy in the world award but i turned it down because i thought it was way below me ;)


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Rating a girl is just a quick way to tell people what they wanna hear. Seriously, the rating system is a bit off. Its easier to find a girl who is pretty that to find one that is not annoying. So I propose a new rating.

NAG1 - NAG10

Non annoying girl 1 to 10. 10 being absolutely not annoying at all and 1 being very very annoying. ;)


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