Guys!
I need help!
I have recently found myself becoming stupidly nervous when getting close with women. I have never been like this before EVER and it's only recently started happening! It's hard now as i have just found myself a girlfriend!

It happens whenever i think there is a possibility of "alone time" when we could take things to... the next step! We have only been together a few weeks and she is slightly younger than me...

As i say i have never had this problem getting close to girls, sleeping with them etc. Its doing my head in! It's uncontrolable! I love her to peices and want things to go further, but work myself up, get really nervous, shakey, sick feeling etc! It's not good!!!!!

Any help would be appreciated!
Cheers guys!!

define getting close. like getting romantic or what if thats the case try hard to relax and focus on your breathing deep breaths and try to remember that ur having a good time with ur lady friend. she might even feel the same way u do. let me know if this helps you man

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Clarify for me: You say you "just found yourself a girlfriend." Does this mean this is your first girlfriend in a long time?

If the girls that you've had no trouble sleeping with in the past were ones that you weren't dating at the time, then your problem isn't all that incredible. You now have a pressure that isn't there with a random girl. There is actually consequence for failure. You feel you're risking what you already have.

You need to remember that the things you did before this "risk" existed in your thinking worked, and there is no reason why they shouldn't work with your girlfriend as well. Get your confidence back.

Also, if the fear of "losing what you've already got" is a huge factor, well, let's examine it for a minute:

First of all tmoney was on target when he said "she might even feel the same way u do." Let me rephrase it for him. "She does feel the way you do. Your girl has just as much desire to "take it to the next level" (we assume you mean sex) as you do. Look around these forums, you'll see that written a million places. She just doesn't want to feel like a slut, which is why you need to do the work.

Now, consider you never take the risk. Is a relationship in which you both want more but don;t/can't go there a good relationship? Of course not. It's awkward, and leaves both of you feeling insecure. So while going for it carries a small risk of damaging the relationship, doing nothing guarantees damage.

Once you can internalize that idea, that going for it is a no lose situation, it will be much easier to regain that old confidence. And once you have the confidence, you already know you'll succeed. ; )

tmoney - getting close - ranges from anything from kissing and cuddling on the sofa, to sleeping together.... I will keep your advice in mind! If it works your a hero!! She has said she gets "butterflies" but i doubt its anywhere near what i get. I work myself up and start feeling physically sick!

Charlatan - I have had several relationships, my last one finished in april 09, i spend the summer in Amsterdam and Ibiza!! Im not new to this!! This is why im getting so worked up about it!!! Great advice from both of you! I will keep all in mind and let you know how it goes!!

Cheers fellas!