hey im kinda new at this and i was wondering, what do u do if she doesn't reply?

i'll skim lightly over the details: i met this chick and kiss closed her .
i kept textin her trying to organise another date, but i think she's lost interest
cause she says she's busy (not a good sign). anyway i texted her a couple of days
later and she didnt reply to that, i dont particularily want to text her again cause i
think it will come off as needy.
so i was wondering three things

1. is it too late? the last text was about 4 days ago

2. what can i do to recapture her interest and get her to reply

3. what have i done wrong, so i can learn from my mistakes

My friend, let me introduce you to the law of requisite variety. The law of requisite variety states that whichever element in a situation has at its deployment the greatest number of options is the controlling element of that situation.

In other words? Don't just close one girl and have one number to call/text. Have as many options as possible. That way, you won't care if one girl doesn't respond. You'll have other girls to text and won't have time to waste on girls who don't respond.

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cheers man this helped alot

i totally agree. but if you want this giirl this time text her:


"Aliens have come to abduct all the sexy ass people in the world, you will be fine i was just texting you to say goodbye how you been?"

how you been is optional but you usually get : "lol, good you?"

^ do not say that unless u want to start a pointless convo.. this dude seems to hav ethe wrong frame just by saying he was TRYING to set up a date when he already knew there was atraction?

Here is what i wanted to do if you havent builded enough attraction/comfort for setting up a 1on1 date...

Invite her to a party, tell her she dont have to take a (girl)friend with her unless she reaaaallly want to...

I have done that with girls i number closed half year ago, it works alot of the times, because she knows shes getting a good time...

Im not a fan of freezeouts but more NEXTING...

Excellent advice. I always frame day 2s around the principle that my friends and I are doing x and if you want, you (and a friend) can come along.

Anyway, it isn't a big deal either way whether you text her back or not. I'm paraphrasing from Tyler Durden here, but: A lot of guys get hung up on waiting x number of days to text or not texting back if she doesn't respond because they fear it will seem needy. Who cares??? Some random girl who you're never going to talk to again thinks you're needy?! Oh no!!

The point is that this one particular girl doesn't matter at this point in time. If you do text her again, take DoItNow's advice. If it works out, great! If it doesn't work out, great!

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haha thanx, so sorta frame it like ur doing something fun anyway but she can tag along if she likes?