Hi Guys...

Ok, I met a student girl, she is in her last year of uni. We met up a few times before she went home for a month for chistmas.

She told me when we met that she had a BF. I dismissed this and continued my game. All was well and slept with her a few times.

( I must add at this point, she said she wasnt happy with her BF and she is not in love with him and was looking to end it)

When she went home for a month i heard nothing from her (which drove me mad) I spoke to her once and then nothing! So to stop me from pestering her I deleted her number and thought if she wants to see me she will be in contact. I did have a little AFC moment and facebook her a messege just sayin happy new year and hope to hear from her, but if i dont it was nice knowing her.... blah blah blah.

I was moving on with my game and getting into other girls while she was away but she was stuck in my head all the time!

To be honest I didnt expect to hear from her but 7 days later had a messege on facebook saying she will see me when she is back... If i want. And that she lost my number!!

I sent my number, told her she has been crap and may speak when she gets back.

SO.... She called me the day she got back and I met her out. I went back hers after and slept the night. I sent he a messege yesterday and she replied saying that I have proven to be her weakness, but she feels she should remind me she still has a BF and doesnt know what she wants right now... !

I know she likes me, but not sure how to handle this situation.... I did say that I will leave the ball in her court and hope to hear from her soon. She doesnt replu for about 6- 24 hours which is sooooo frustrating.

All I do is think about her and its driving me mental. What do u think?? Driving me crazy this is I have an idea what to do but its not working!

Go sarging! Mystery: the best cure for One-itis is sarging

an im telling you it works.

Also, get into your head, there is going to be a girl out there better than her.

il given you some advice.

go on youtube and type in "if i didnt have you" by Tim Minchin, it makes my point in song

I'd suggest you do some self inquiry. Try to figure out the following:

What is it that you are seeking from this person that you require them to act in a certain way in order for you to be happy?

If this person didn’t exist in your world, would you still feel this way?

Are you following your passion and acting upon your desires outside the relationship? Is it possible that you are making this person the sole source of happiness and adventure in your life?

Why are you allowing this person’s actions to have so much control over your life and direction? What is that you want to pursue, and why aren’t you doing
it?

Are you not doing things you think you should be doing because it will make you look weak in front of her? Is doing so taking up a lot of energy and focus?

Well to be honest, I think i want to be with her. I still dont know her all that well but want the oportunity to see her and get to know her better The thing is, she feels right! I have had chances to be with some beautiful girls but she is who im thinking about!

She isnt the be all and end all but she is someone that i want to persue because i get a good feeling about her. By her keepin distance she makes me want her more.

I feel like i want her more than she wants me although she called me to come out and see her the other night. Im confused by her actions but maybe she is confused also! She said that she tried to end it with her BF but he said he doesnt want to and would rather drift apart, so thats what she is doing there as she doesnt want to upset him!!

Im kinda stuck in the middle.

I do speak and get involved with other girls but i just dont feel the same as i do when im around this onitis i am talking about.

I think you should tell her exactly how you feel. Even if that means her distancing herself from you. It will help you breathe easier.

She has a boyfriend. She can't control herself "around you," so what makes you think she will control herself around other men if she is with you? If you really were her weakness she would've called.

Her boyfriend isn't there with her at school and you are. It's convenient. It's a booty call. She is your number one. You are her "b" guy. Make her your "b" girl.

Go
Find
Ten
Other
Women

I'm sure you could find ten other girls that meet and exceed whatever standard she has set. You shouldn't involve yourself with a girl emotionally so soon either. A good way to protect yourself is to have girls on the side. She has a man on the side. You shouldn't give her what you can't expect from her at this point.

GFTOW.

You want her because you can't have her. You don't even like this girl. Get new ones.

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abs and ders i really enjoyed what you guys wrote. im actually was thinking about my one itis and saw this so thanks for that man. good advice i think im gonna go out and start meeting new girls, because this new girl im seeing is getting in my head too.

OK OK UPDATE!!

I was workin last night in a night club and I got a messege from her about 23.30. She was out and seems she wanted to see me. She came to the club and we went back to her house. Whe had a bit of banter and had sex in her room and kitchen.. (Freaky girl )

To be honest i was beginning to write her off but it seems she likes me more than i thought! We spoke about a few things that cleared some grey areas. Im still not sure what to make of her but I do know she likes me. Just gotta play the game now!!

Fuckin women!!