not initiating texts/phone calls as much anymore (I know thats not a offense but it bothers me)

not responding or prolonging texts

telling me she'll call me in a couple min and waiting an hour

telling me she wants to videochat in a couple of min and waiting an hr

making fun of me jokingly in front of my friends and i, which would be ok if it she did it some times but EVERY SINGLE TIMEE shes with my friends

not saying she loves me anymore or calling me babe/baby

I know none of these things are that big a deal, but should I address them with her at all or just blow it off?

If it bothers you enough to write about it, why wouldn't you bring it up with her? You'll never find out why it's going on (or if you are overreacting) if you don't ask.

--L

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The above is a woman's POV; may or may not represent the rest of my gender

I agree..

It's a relationship... IF she makes you feel unhappy.. you should tell her.. talk things out...

Of course at times, perhaps you are frustrated, and not thinking straight, and then you write a thread on PUA forum.. and then you realised you werent thinking straight..

If it's something solid.. talk to her about it.. or give her some of her own medicine..

But if it's a mature relationship and solid.. just talk with her ..
It's not AFC..

honestly I have, but imo bringing these things up is kinda AFC and needy, dont you agree?

It's only AFC if you feel it is.

damn dude.. stop thinkin about if its AFC or not..

Work on your inner game ..

It's afc to say "oooh why dont u say sweet things to me "..

I would approach it like this..

Liste hun, lately, you don't make me feel so happy as you used to, why you so down?

Then she would ask, what? what do you mean?

Then you say, well it's irritating me that you don't talk much ect..

Seriously.. i can't tell you what to say..
Only you know what to say..


YOU ARE IN A Relationship!! She aint your fuck buddy

It aint working if you are unhappy and she is happy ..
You need her!, admit it.. we all need our GFs..
And well.. perhaps in some eyes it's AFC..
But if i didnt need my GF, she wouldnt be my GF..

Lay of the AFC talk.. work on inner game...

You are the man in the relationship!
If something is going off balance.. you need to say "stop!" what is going on ? and how can we fix it..
IF there is something you are unhappy about, dont cry here, you go tell her! That is Alpha..

Saying what is on your mind? That is alpha...
Saying just whatever you want to say? That is alpha..

If you want to address her the problem.. then do it!.. that is alpha


Damn.. im generous today...

Listen.. IF she doesnt say "love you", she doesent say "miss you" ect

Turn it around..

Tell her

"Listen cookie, i can feel there is something wrong.. i don't like it that you don't express yourself anymore.. open up to me.. you have become very closed, dont talk much, and dont express yourself much.. loosen up cupcake"..

I'd just like to say I'm really pleased to see the responses you got. I half figured a bunch of newbie PUA's would jump in and say "yeah, man, punish her, freeze out, it's needy.". These guys hit it completely right--it's all in how you feel it and say it.

There is a big difference between this: "I need you to call me all the time and answer my texts immediately and say I love you every time or else I'll feel neglected" (dated that guy for 3 years--misery ) and this: "hey, you said you'd write me back in a few minutes and you didn't. You keep doing that, and I have things to do, I can't just wait around for an hour. So what's up?" All you're asking for is courtesy and honesty.

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The above is a woman's POV; may or may not represent the rest of my gender

Yeah Linckia

It's a relationship. you should be together, and handle the good and the bad things together ..

Communication is very important