I like lodes 3rd question ill add that to mine.

With a surge of inner game proportionists, is it a crucial area to succeed in pick up? Or has inner game turned into a marketing tool to sell to replace live in field experience? Can you pinpoint exactley were inner game belongs in the grand scale of Pick Up? Thanks medic.

P.S. I live on long island and im going into the city today to sarge, teach me pro bono

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Lodewijkp,

Building your social skills is like anything else, the more that you get out there, the shorter that it will take to be comfortable with it. The flip side is that if you aren't going to spend much time infield, the time that you do spend, you need to work twice as hard as someone who is out there twice as much as you are.

There is no steadfast formula that says "if you go out X times, you will get X results." If you want to dedicated 1 day a week to gaming, go for it. It's up to you. I believe that every time that you interact with anyone, your skills improve, in one way or another.

If your AA has made a strong come back, revisit the newbie challenge. AA has a funny way of sneaking up on you when you're not looking.


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Inner game is more important than what words you can spit out. None of this will work if you feel like sh*t about yourself. If you feel like a rockstar, you'll act like one.

P.S. No

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Medic,

I hope I'm allowed to reply post to this kind of thread. If not then I apologize.

It is somewhat silly that I'm not decisive on this matter, but it's the first time I've had to eject myself from a social circle.

I have distanced myself but I returned since it seemed like they learned. On the contrary, they returned to their previous mannerisms. I am not sure what is the best approach. Should I tell them my reason for leaving (it bothers me that this could be viewed as a weakness), or distance myself for good?

Edit: Thanks Medic!

Nah man, it's cool, you can ask away.

I am a firm believer that from the very moment that you meet someone, you teach them how you wish to be treated. Unfortunately, many years ago, when you met these people, somehow, this behavior of insulting one another was deemed okay. Now, don't get me wrong, my friends and I break each other's balls on a fairly regular basis, but it's all in fun.

I don't know your friends or the social dynamic that y'all hold, so I can't really say exactly what will work. On the other hand, I can say that approaching them individually and stating your problem may be better received than trying to confronting the group. Yes, this can be viewed as a weakness, but if these people care about you, they should respect you.

With all of that being said, if you don't like the way that you're being treated, there's no reason for you to tolerate it. There's tons of other people around you, it's not like you'll be all alone. Furthermore, it can be sort of an adventure to meet a group of new people, building new relationships.

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Thanks Medic. I appreciate it. I got back in the gym this week. Been 5 times this week.. Back to the basics is a good idea. It's just getting out there without really knowing many people is kind tough. My living and financial situation isnt that bad. I live with my parents, but they are gone 3 out of 4 weeks a month. It's just tough not having my own space. But I am saving more cash than ever before.

Anyway, thanks again... It was just what I needed.

CK

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Medic, question for you.

I met a girl at a coffee shop last weekend, and got her number. Called her up during the week and set up date for this past Saturday. We ended up going to a bar and had great conversation and seemed to really hit it off. She was laughing at my jokes the whole time and I ended up bring her back to my place. One thing lead to another and we ended up hooking up, didn't take it all the way but close. She kept saying things like "we shouldn't do this on the first date" but was going with it anyways. Anyways, I drove her home afterwards and we were chatting pleasantly the whole way back, and she gave me a big kiss when I dropped her off.

Now the problem is that I texted her the day after, no response. Called a day later and no reply.

Is it possible I scared her off by taking it to far on the first date? I was under the impression she had a great time and was really into me. So I really have no idea why she's not responding. I'm not sure whether to call again or just give it up.

I think that you hit it right on the head. She may have had a great time, but feels guilty about it, which is completely understandable.

If I were you, I'd give it another shot. What I would do is do something that would leave her in no doubt that you're not looking to just hook up with her. For instance, take her out to lunch, but make sure that you can't spend the whole afternoon with her.

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Medic,

Expanding on Thabaws question... could it be that she was upset they didn't go all the way? That she really just wanted reassurance from him that it wasn't going to be a one night lay, and then fuck. That she is just frustrated she didnt get laid? Just a thought...

CK

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Nice thought, though.

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Hi,
I am completely new to PUA, even though I joined the forum ages ago. I had a long term GF, so no need to come here.

I have been trying to get my game back and it seams to be working okish. I managed to get with 2 different girls over the last 2 weeks. But what I generally noticed is that I can open sets only if I do they are 7s or lower. I just get brain freeze with 8s and above. I do not use canned stuff, but mostly observational or situation based stuff. So unless there is something I can use from the surroundings or situation I miss out the oppertunity. Ones I have them open I seam to be able to get what I want and mostly number or facebook close.

thanks

Hey package, welcome to the community and to the site.

I didn't see a question posted, so I'm going to assume that you're asking for advice to help get over your brain freeze.

My biggest piece of advice is to stop worrying about how attractive they are, as far as the open goes. If you just view her as a person, not as a 7 or an 8, the open may go a lot smoother. I don't give a damn how good looking she is, you can open AND close her.

Basically, just push through it. If you've been closing, then something's got to be working for you...

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medics right... i have to add something to it
not matter how a woman look - if she's screwed in the head she's screwed in the head. And why be intimidated by them in the first place ? i don't put make-up on my face to hide my insecurity.
Also when im sarging i go for the ''less hotter'' girls like 4,5,6 ... after im warmed up i go for the hotter ones.

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Thanks for that Lodewijkp!

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