This is a long story but I will try to be brief and to the point for you guys. I went out with a girl from work who was into me, we went to her house and watched a movie. Things were going fairly well, and I had just read Double your Dating. I used Cocky and Funny and I think it went well, but she was aggitated that I wasnt acting like myself and was using this routine.

The Cocky and Funny method was working good until it was a little too cocky and not enough funny, at which point I later learned by phone conversation that she was kind of creeped out and thought that I may be an abusive type. (She was ignoring calls and I told her if I call she'd better answer. I gave a little smile but I guess she thought I was being stone cold serious.) Also, we went to her house twice, once saturday and then sunday, I will just throw in events from both days without specification as it isnt really relevant.

The first night I didnt creep her out or anything, things went well after the movie, we kiss closed and everything was well, she said she wanted to see me tommorow after she was done working, I agreed.

The following day didnt go as well, I tried using a few other methods after she had been holding my hand and leaning on me to kind of move away, this made her think I was in a pissy mood and was angry with her. The same night I made a stupid joke about knives which was really idiotic looking back it it.. (The guys would have liked it.) and this really freaked her out at the time.

She said she didnt even know me anymore and didnt know what to think. A friend encouraged me to tell her that I had read some advice from a book and to tell her I was using some routines. (Stupid, I know, but I am learning from my mistakes and will not make them again, its all apart of the game.) She obviously wasnt happy about this and told me to be myself, blah blah.

I thought I was finished, she said there probably would be no second chance. However that chance seems to have come up, she is still indicating interest in me and wants to know the real me. I dont understand after so many fuck ups how she would still give me a chance, as in most cases a guy would have been finished for sure.

She wanted to make plans to go out to eat tommorow, do you have any suggestions on how I can regain some footing to get her comfortable with me again? I know it might be a long shot but she has still indicated some interest, so I think it is worth a shot..

it seems like u care (allot) for this lady, girl from your office. Other PUA would have prob gone with the "plenty other fish" theme... From your story i conclude that lady is still interested in u , she could have blown ya off for like 2 - 3 times alrdy. She didnt, so obviously something is working for ya . I would advice (my humble opinion) to stop playing routines and "acting". Stop using pre-designed methods and approaches (nvm how well they might work , it seems to me that they dont fit your goals , your current situation) HOWEVER, the filosophy of "Double your Dating" is fantastic material , try to apply who U are into this methode of thinking...
Play out the cards u have been dealth ...

Dare to step away from conversations, approaches that are written out for u ...

Couse hey , No guts no glorie right ?

khalam
ps. nvm if u follow my advice or not , let us know how it all works out

I know what you mean.

My female friend told me the same thing. You have to balance everything out. For me, David D's principle of not caring and continuous C&F may well work only in the first stages of intimacy. You see, soon enough, you have to embed yourself into the C&F. Connection is the key. Just lean back and don't worry about anything.

My advice to you, mix it well.

Take some time for intimate talks and some time for C&F. Women don't want nice guys, but they sure don't want insecure arrogant bastards who are lost causes.

Goodluck.

Today is the day I go for it, thanks for the tips. I seem to get one-itus, and it seems that people here are more geared towards finding the quickest ways to getting laid. Im still looking for the long term relationship kind of thing, im still too much of a nice guy at heart but I dont have to show that either.

What are some of the ways in which you show you would like to go steady and start building long term relationship emotions? I want to do it without being too quick or looking needy.

I think NLP would be more usefull than PUA routines if your looking to build long term relationship. If your not familiar with NPL (YOU SHOULD BE!) I'd suggest reading intoduction to NLP. Basically you can figure out what type of person she is Visual, Auditory, Kinsthetic and model your speaking so it will appeal to her and connect with her on a personal level. Also control your breather to how she is breathing. Thats all I suggest, I highly suggest that you do not run any anchoring routines on her.