I am posting this in search of others opinions. I have had a cell phone for many years and have been using the text message originally as an alternative to the too slow method of emailing and the too time intensive method of instant messaging. The appeal of these methods is the avoidance of personality in contact. It may allow others to feel as though they can better express themselves because there is no actual human interface. The phone itself does not fall into this category because one still must comminicate verbally and can read tonal changes and shifts. It may fall somewhere between the too extremes of direct person contact and the use of script as a means of communication.

I originally began using a cell phone for the purpose of calling but with the development of text messaging I too lured. Originally I thought it seemed cool and a non invasive way to just send small bits of info as needed in situations where a phone call was not needed. This was years ago before the advent of full keyboard cell phones and the blackberry bbm. It soon shifted as a full use tool of communication often having huge conversations restricted to just text messages. I should have realized when I needed to change my plan to facilitate this text message surge that something was awry, but I was blinded by the apparent ease text messaging offered.

Jump to the present, I now have come to a conclusion that texting game, while it exists, is an uneccessary, overused and inefficient tool in the gaming realm. Evidence on behalf of my opinion comes in a few forms. First, I would like it to be known that I have had success with luring women via text messages and it has been overall successfull for me. However, I beleive that it has lost its meaning is present usage. Texting game can often be flipped around on a guy, as has often happened to me, in which a girl can play the push pull game of baiting a guy with suggestive texting and then isolating him and not responding leaving the guy to feel confused and concerned. It is easy to get caught up in a text conversation and then have the girl drop it for any number of reasons. Next, texting is so common that a properly placed phone call can make one stand out in the eyes of a girl and shows this guy has balls ie confidence which as we know women feed off like a ravenous hoard. Also, in conjunction with the above point, under utilizing text messaging can put the reverse on the girl, getting her to think why you arent texting her and thus ultimately keeping you on her mind, which is a good thing. The last reason that comes to mind, I wish I had better formated my arguing points but beleive me many more exist and I will post them as I remember them, is that texting fails to properly give the art of gaming which we all abide by its due credit. Successful game is a combination of many factors, the words being said just a small fraction of the overall. Text gaming lacks the nuances of body language, tone, eye contact to name only a few. Text gaming in my opinion does not do the user just cause, especially if they beleive they have a decent game to use. The value in text gaming in my opinion thus does not come from conversation, but just what its original application was intended for. That is being used soley as a tool to send quick bits of information that do not warrant a phone call. Thus I beleive that use of a very few, no more than one or two, text messages in the scheme of overall game is highly advantageous and warrant further study.

I will begin attempting a study in which I use texting very sparingly. I will document my results and get back with an analysis and either validation or lack there of for my hypothesis. I hope anyone who makes it this far can offer some oppinion, either for or against my argument. I know I have left a great deal out and would enjoy any and all input on the matter. Texting is widespread in todays culture and the old idiom of call me is fast becoming text me. Time may show that I just may have to stand against this. Happy hunting.

LoL I hope you don't 'text' like you write in here, using big words and such. Girls don't like that I have personally found text very useful as it always gives you time to word your message perfectly and you can use emotions such as these etc to show a small amount of 'body language'. Its true calling is better, and I prefer calls, but sometimes its just not needed...


-SoZoS

THF what your saying makes sense, especially your point about text game not giving the user just cause, but you have to realize that girls (and guys) have begun to learn how to represent tones and moods through texting, for example

A -- "I was planning on sexually escalating things tonight, but your loss"

and

B -- "I was planning on sexually escalating things tonight , but your loss :-p"

are interpreted completely differently, i texted -=B=- to a girl i had intended to meet last night, but she decided to flake on me and ask me to come tomorrow, i refused and sent the above text, she told me to come ASAP.
I think if texted her -=A=- she would have been more confused but we have emotes and we can even change the mood of a text with more words ie.

C -- " I was totally gonna sexually escalate things a little bit tonight, but hey girl, you're loss haha "

sure it's a little safer, because you can fall back onto the "hahaha i tricked you hahaha" type of deal....
but im just showing that we can make the reader interpret texts almost as well as if we said it.


Still i am very interested in you're epic journey into text rehab.
Good luck m8

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"Everything's eventual"

I totally agree with m0nki3, hes on the money. We are all using texting alot more now with IM's, Facebook, sms, mms, even email, so through all of this people are learning ways to get some of there bodylanguage and emotions through without voicetone and without physically being there...

-SoZoS

First weekend's results are promising yet inconclusive. The fact that I was not texting drove me to be more outgoing, especially in the bar SPAM. I was acting knowing that the day 2 would not be my typical casual text a few days later. I had some texts that I responded to with a call and the girls seemed to react very positively to it. What would have taken multiple texts and would have been an uncertainty turned into girls inviting me out with them or over before going out and a few call, not texts, back later in the night to see what I was doing. Although the minor picture proved promising going without late night "booty call" texting left me without anything to show for nights events. Based on these preliminary results I shall continue the study and think that this technique will open up women's comfort levels with me a lot sooner than the normal progression of events. However Saturdays results were inconclusive because of my state of intoxication and some minor drama that broke out. I will continue to post results as they come in, happy hunting.