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Only if i do it more than once a week. If not no issues here.

That was a great post Jezebel. I think I'm going to tell the girl I'm with that I'm a virgin. But only if it the fact of performing keeps giving me unwanted nerves, which I think it still is.
It sounds as if you've swallowed the masturbate only once a week nonsense. Don't follow all the PUA 'rules' so blindly. There's a report out recently which basically says if you don't ejaculate a few times a week you'll very likely get prostrate cancer! So abstaining is going to fuck you up.

To be frank if you're male and less than 30 you should be generating so much testosterone that you can easily masturbate a couple of times a day then fuck each day and have loads spare!
I tend to agree...if your not real familiar with sex and your only ejaculating once a week then I would say you've got some practicing to do before you start to F* !! Im not kidding... If your in your early twenties and only come once a week then you might wanna have your testosterone levels checked.

Im 33 and have sex 4-8 times a week and I still find time to jack-off a couple times a week...You GOTTA BE FAMILIAR WITH YOURSELF....So join a high quality porn sight (I like "reality kings") and get busy learning how your Dick Works !!

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LOLOL!!! omg funniest posts I've read on this site yet.

Yeah I read that "jack off once a week" thing and it seemed like a great idea. I really did feel more attracted to women and I had a clearer mind when speaking to people in general. I also go out more, because since I'm so sexually frustrated, I want to cool it down by doing more activities which help distract me from doing it. I don't mind it. I've jacked off more than enough to know how my dick works and I don't think there's anything else I need to learn (HA!). Just looking forward to jacking off inside a woman. I should also add that I'm not as strict as I seem to appear on this board. 1-3 times a week is where I'm at right now. I like it honestly.

of course, it could just be a placebo effect, but it's a damn good one.


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LOLOL!!! omg funniest posts I've read on this site yet.

Just looking forward to jacking off inside a woman.

of course, it could just be a placebo effect, but it's a damn good one.
ROFL..Jacking off inside a woman is the funniest shit I've heard in awhile......as for the Placebo effect I learned long ago that just because something only exists in my head its still REAL!! Haha..

Good Luck with losin the V-card. It really isn't a big deal at your age.... Tell or don't Tell...it doesn't matter. I had a real problem my first time cause I thought I wouldn't be able to get it up....I put it off for a year longer than I should have because of this "performance anxiety". You'll see that once the seal is broken then its not a big deal!!


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ok i know im new to these boards and am a complete noobie at PUA, BUT i feel i can help with this.

I recently had a fling with this girl i was a virgin before and i told her up straight before we got close, being a virgin isnt a bad thing at all and most girls are not put off by it at all. When i lost it to her i felt i was nervous as i obviously hadnt the faintist of clues but it didnt end up bad, im sure you wont have a hard time keeping your dick up if your attracted to her.

Just try to keep cool and go with the flow, dont think about it too much before neither.

And goodluck with the girl mate.


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While I appreciate all the tips I feel like a thread hijacker now. Sorry for taking away all the attention.


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I'm just gonna put it out there..

Being a virgin is okay - and like it has been said before, when I did finally have sex at the age of 18 - I did feel a sudden scence of.. "was that it".."THATS what i've been stressing out over for the last 18years of my $^*& life".. "£*%@"..

So don't worry...

and on the topic of tossing it off regularly.. Put it this way, I was watching Tv earlier today.. got a random boner, and thought "hey..it's 2:27pm, House has rougly 5mins before a another episode comes on.. might as well burn some calories and shoot the troops."

Done Deal.
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I was taught that pre-marital sex is a taboo ! So I needed to learn a lot of things and challenge a lot of my believes. So being a virgin may not be that bad of a thing after all.


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Well I lost my V card in this year and im 18. It's not really a big deal. But it's like learnign to walk. U might fall couple times and get shaky legs but more you do it better you will do.

And im kinda dispointed in the person I lost my Vcard the sounding of savign myself was awsome to me. And I do feel lil bad about it. So just do it with someone you wont be ashamed of losing it too :) good luck with the Vcard losing <3


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Thanks so much for all the comments guys! Especially Jez you really nailed it thanks a million seriously!

I can now see how being a virgin really isn't that big of a deal, and neither is sex. It seems like I've just been over thinking it. I also know that I am not going to see a prostitute that's just a little too much haha fortunately for me I can attract women.

And Open, you didn't hijack this thread because we're both pretty much in the same situation lol and all the advice given to you (or me you might have just thought it was you) helps me understand things too.


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I think I'm going to tell the girl I'm with that I'm a virgin.
LOLWUT????? Really? Thats not gonna help your case any.....girls want a guy with experience and they believe in the attachment theory, which states that, if a guy's a virgin, he's gonna be clingy towards the first girl that he fucks. I personally think its a load of fuckin shit, but alot of girls truly believe it. I think it would just be best not to mention that you're a virgin.


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K, I'm not a virgin

(3 times and counting boyyyyyy)

But I feel u...

So I'll try and shed a little light based on my experience.

Ok, now I lied about bein a virgin my first time... but I probably shouldn't have cuz it was my girl & she might have been more open... cuz she didn't know it was my first... oh boy... lol lets just say it wasent pretty... I'm not exactly small & didn't really know how to make it easy on her lol... she felt real shitty lol so did I, I had to take it out a couple times till I went soft.. N quit cuz I had work soon lol.

That felt like shit lol... I gotta admit...

I think.. U should have sex with a girl who u can trust enough to be honest with... one who's either understanding or not really experienced herself, so u can be on the same level..

Cuz really, I think girls who have been around know the difference between someone who knows what their doing and doesn't. & at the risk of a damaged reputation or embarasment that might make this feeling worse, u should invest the time in a chick who you don't have to lie to... at least for now.


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Cuz really, I think girls who have been around know the difference between someone who knows what their doing and doesn't. & at the risk of a damaged reputation or embarasment that might make this feeling worse, u should invest the time in a chick who you don't have to lie to... at least for now.
Firstly expect ALL first sexual encounters with women to be a ONS. If it's good to take it further for more ...then great

Secondly who gives a fuck what THEY think. If you're fucking someone in a small social circle and it turns out bad expect a LOT of shit...but then again do NOT game anyone close.

Thirdly, a big piece of advice --- concentrate on foreplay and after play a LOT. This is what separates the men from the boys. Be patient - most young inexperienced guys think it is just about fucking - foreplay plus oral sex before intercourse is a good recipe. I think there's only a handful of girls/women who don't like it! After sex it's important to show you care, snuggle and all that stuff. Even a ONS doesn't have to be heartless and uncaring. OH and if you can fuck her multiple times in a night. Quantity and intent will outweigh performance!


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I'm 24 and still a virgin. I have tried for years at changing that, but no success. I think I'm making it much harder than it has to be, but not sure how or why. I get really horny if I don't masturbate, although I don't think I communicate that well.


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I'm 24 and still a virgin. I have tried for years at changing that, but no success. I think I'm making it much harder than it has to be, but not sure how or why. I get really horny if I don't masturbate, although I don't think I communicate that well.
I think it maybe worth you looking at The Gunwitch Method - basically it's get into a sexual state and approach girls on their own. I don't think you have to be walking around with an erection but hold the feeling just prior to getting one. The idea is that when you're turned-on you are confident and in state.


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A few practical tips. If you're going on a date/meet and think it's likely you'll have sex, do not masturbate that day. There's something really embarassing trying to perform when you're physically incapable.
I allllwayyyss bust a knut before I go out if I'm probably gonna have sex. It helps with stamina. Nothing worse than after 45 seconds "Oh shit, I'm gonna cumm AUhhhhhh oohhhhhh yaaaaaaaaa mmmmmmmmm" HAHAHA


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junt to add my two cent, i was a late bloomerand didn't pop my cheeriy till i was 18. however for a periord befor that i chosies to me a vergin. at the time i convinced my self it was proof that i wasn't intested in sex and there for women couldn't think i was slezzy. although alot of it was probbely was denial as well. sex wasn't happening for me so i convinced my self it was because i didn't want it too. cooshened the blow slightly. (even in my really fucked up days. i considered castration to remove the sexual side of me... its scary to think back on that now. that i was in that head space)

any way i never hid the fact i was a vergin and it was common knowlage. however i wasn't ashamed about it and was cool clam and collaected about it. untill on day a girls was staying over at mine, we ended up watch porn for a laugh ironicly . she knowing full well i was a vergin then disided "ah fuck it" and rolled on top of me. and that was it... next day ouch! i was sorce in places i didn't know exsisted. but the day had finnaly come i was a man. i then when with that girl for 3 months after that... even then she said for a vergin a did btter that some other guys she was with. even then she showed me a thing or two and let me exsperament.

so moral of my story, be open and unaplagetic about it. if it's not big deal to you it's not big deal to other people and i'm sure some girls will be turned on at the prospect of teach a guy a thiny or two.

hope that helps...

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