I initially went to this hippy venu (let's call it the "Glen" - it's known for being a friendly SPAM where anyone can talk to anyone) because a girl I met there some time ago asked if I was gonna be there. She never actively seeked me out, I ended up finding her with her other friends, but that's another issue - point is they were there for me to go to.

So what happened was, I was dancing in the crowd, and felt a vibe with the girl I happened to be dancing next to. See, this has happened before, I mill my way through the dancing crowd, possibly targeting specific attractive girls or just being near the most attractive ones and seeing if I feel a vibe. I got a number and a day 2 from a girl I found that way - however the important thing is I was able to use my Modern Jive dancing to impress her, and there was just enough room to do it, and the music was right.

Neither was the case this time. But I was right with the vibe, and she was receptive to me talking and showing her how to dance, but the dancing didn't go well because it wasn't the right beat, and not enough room - she dropped her hands after a time, but keeping a happy face and laughing, and going back to single dancing.

So I was at a loss this time. I ended up asking / saying things intermittently. She was still receptive. THEN I got a text from the girl I was supposed to meet - she said I walked right by her. I closed the phone, and told the dancing girl I have to go meet my friends, and gave her a hug and a kiss goodbye, which she was very receptive to, pulling in close and smiling, and even went for a kiss on the lips which I missed and went for the cheek out of habit.

As I was walking away, I actually left feeling a bit turned on by how receptive she was to the hug and kiss, and told myself I was going to go back there. And I was going to be a bit more "boyfriend-ish", because I've been told I don't flirt enough, and treat girls too much like friends.

So after I caught up with the girl and her friends (again, separate issue - she is one of 2 girls I met a while back, and I like the other one and she wasn't there), I pretended I got an SMS and left that group saying I had to say hi to a friend.

I found the dancing girl, and snuck up behind her and put my arm around her waist half hugging her from behind and said "Hey Tammy" leaning over her shoulder. She smiled and turned and said "Hey" but then did this little squirm away, gently pushing her elbow into my tummy and moving away from me. Dancing was real awkward, and she was keeping a straight face.

What I ended up doing was making a few more comments / questions and then telling her "It was real nice meeting you Tammy, I'll see you round" with a smile, touching her shoulder and starting to move away. She laughed in a friendly way and said "byebye" and showed no interest of keeping me around, getting right back to dancing.



I feel like, while I wouldn't move this fast again, physically (should dish out the kino more lighter, right?) the fact that I tried something and got turned down, especially so gently, doesn't mean I should quit, right? I thought this at the time but I didn't know what to do about it. What would you guys do?

Also I have no idea what to do on the dance floor to escalate if I can't do my partner dancing, any tips for that?