So im of chinese decent. I've been told by people that i am attractive, just short as fuck. i'm 17 and im only 5'7&1/2. idk...i just completely have NOTHING to say to a girl. i cant start a conversation and im always SO fuckin insecure about the way i look. I dress better than all my friends but at times, i feel not as attractive as them to chicks. I can socialize really well with guys but when theres a girl around..i just freeze up like fuckin Ice Man. I see all my friends spittin game n shit but im just there, hella quite...and either smoking a cigarette cuz i hate myself or just puffin on a blunt. Sum of my friends even think i'm gay. BTW...i was abused and shit by my mom when i was a kid and my dad didn't live with us. I see him once a year pretty much. that might have something to do with it. So if ur a player and you've been through the same (maybe not the abused part), hit me up on my post and tell me how you overcame that shit...its also BS how asian american males are portrayed as undesirable.

hey man, i think you got a lot going for you

u dress well
u are attractive apparently

its all an issue of confidence, alot about talking to girls and flirting to girls is confidence
you need to come in there and know what to say

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Awesome is definitely an understatement

yo dude, leme just let u know ur not alone, almost all of us started like this on the game, like through my secondary school i was more of a punch bag and nowhere near a chick magnet, i was the most insecure fuck u cud imagine, my friends are geeks and social life almost didnt exist

.......however i did change, i just hated wht life threw me with so i threw it right back and slowly tried to experience life, thts where i ended up in the seduction community, and boy o boy, how i started......i froze as hell, never managed to socialize well with girls, and always ended up in embarrasin situations

......but one of the ways i learnt to destroy my fear with girls was to approach them randomly in malls and askem for the best store, best movie....e.g. whts the best present u can give to my GF?.......then i'll thank them and leave, gradually i got used to approachin girls (this may sound crazy but ross jeffries actually advises his students to break there shyness with a women by approachin them and sayin "hi im bradly the martian, do u like martian food?")

all i can say is to work on one important thing....

YOUR MINDSET........this is really important

the game will never work no matter how much u say or real u are
your mind set should be the followin...look into the mirrror and say the following,
"A girl meeting me will be the greatest experience she'll ever have, Iam amzin and deserve the best this world has to offer, iam unique...no guy can match me"

and when approachin avoid approachin with these mind sets...."i hope they accept me" or "time to seduce these bitches".......thts a mindset of a person who's insecure, he'll suck the energy of the room whilst trying to gain attention and respect from the ppl around.........NO ONE wants to hang with him
instead approach with this mind set....
"hey this is fun lets see wht happens".......this person is there to have a good time and give others a good time, he's full of confidence and charisma, girls wanna hang around with him and boys wanna be him....He's the chick magnet

Everyone wants to be with u when ur happy, the person tht has fun,however notice your alone when your the sulking dude in the corner

and leme let u know....u will recieve rejections and failiures....all of us have and will......NEVER feel down or let ur insecurity take control of u, just because she rejected u....she's not the only one out there, she's not important....just because she rejected u doesnt mean every single girl is ganna reject u.

wht i do is imagine tht perfect pick up some day and imagine wht im doin now is practicing towards it,rather than put your mind set to "oh shit im a failiure" try puttin this mind set on "hmm where did go wrong?, leme take a note of it so this doesnt happen next time". if she rejects me.....she's the unlucky one
thts why its called a game......u can always press replay on another girl.....in the end practice makes perfect......no pain,no gain

You are not alone!

I would like to tell you that I was almost the same. I was insecure around women. I felt ugly and unattractive. I had no good fatherfigure.
Basically my life sucked bigtime. I had nothing to say to girls, nothing that was funny. I had a timid voice and people started talking to change the subject whenever I tried to get a word in. My posture was crap and my confidence was below the floor.

You know what I did? I started working with myself. I realized that yes, life is not fair but the past is not something that I can do anything about. What has happened has happened and the only choice I have is if I will let it destroy my life or if I will overcome it. Above all I stopped feeling sorry for myself. I am sure that you have gone through a lot but you need to let go. You need to start over. Redefine your life as you wanna see it.

I feel your pain, I really do! I have been there. But I set out to destroy EVERY single limiting belief that I had in my head. I faced every fear (except spiders, they sooo suck!) and overcame them. I still have some left to defeat but I am still on it. There is no excuse for not dealing with you insecurities. You gonna face every single difficulty and ask yourself:
Is there a meaning to this. Is there any point in me keeping this limitation?

If you realize that the limitation and/or fear is there for a good reason (such as preventing you from being violent) then keep it. If the limitation does only do harm then destroy it! Deliberately get yourself into situations where you are forced to face your fear. Gradually you will see that you can beat it, you can handle the situation and you wil lose the fear.

In the beginning I took on small things like talking to people. I did it gradually starting with my closest aquaintances and moved on up to more difficult things.

Nowadays my confidence (Ego) is strong enough to go right to the biggest fears. I can face the monster directly without beating down his minions first. Find them and destroy them.

I hope that I inspired you. There is not much I can do without actually meeting you but at least I can tell you that it is not hopeless and that you are not alone. You are the one who has to find your demons because you are the only one who know what they look like.

Ezo