well, topic kind of explains it. Lately she has been controlling the sexual aspect of the relationship, I want more of it, and she hasn't been giving it to me lately. When i try to initiate she will often say, i dont feel well or that she is tired. These are reasonable excuses, but when it happens 90% of the time it gets annoying, and on top of that she will tease me and get me all horned up, and then stop and say that she doesnt want to have sex. I would say we have sex about 6 times a month currently. Maybe my last gfs were nymphos, but this is a low number for me, any advice would be greatly appreciated =)

Next time she wants sex, you tell HER that you're not in the mood

Never let a women use sex as a tool and dont let her get ona power trip. If she says shes not in the mood say "Ok thats fine" and leave it. This is when you should use push pull and in other word push away a littler bit...dont be mean, dont stop talking to her, just dont give her exactly what she wants. An example would be like the person above me said "When she wants sex say your not in the mood" This helps take the power back.

Another thing you should keep an eye on is how she talks about sex. If she says to you at any time "Somones not geting laid tonight" or somthing along those lines you should say "What makes you think you get to deicide that? Its ok Im not really in the mood tonight any way" and then flash her a little smile.

Never let a women try to use sex to gain power because 99% of women will try this...Its a magic key for most women and its really sad to see most men fall to their knees and bow to their gf's when they say "you not geting laid unless...." lol sad sad sad.

Another thing you need to remeber is women dont get turned on the same way we do so it might not necessarily be a power trip but rather it could just be that she doesnt feel sexy or she isnt turned on....for men we see a naked women and we get hard lol for women they need a story line, romance, somthing to stimulate the brain.

1. She might feel unattractive: Mabey she has gained some weight, she bloated, has a pimple ect ect...women need to feel good about them selfs to feel sexy and want to have sex so make sure she know you thinks shes sexy. Dont be weird about it by telling her every 2 seconds she sexy but just erasure her that you think she beautiful, she smells good, you like what she wearing ect ect.

2. Women to be mentally stimulated: You cant just jump right into sex...you need some romance, a nice dinner, mabey go to the club and grind, talk dirty to her (when the mood is right), let her dress up, tell her what you want to do to her, get her flowers and clean the house ect ect ect....women need to feel like they are in a romance novel in order to get really turned on! Just being naked doesnt do it for them.

3. She might be frustrated from school/work/ or life: Women have a hard time thinking about sex when they have alot of other crap on their mind. Help her relax and forget about all her problems and she will be able to focus on feeling sexy and having fun.

I agree completely! This is a good tactic!

Ditto. Sex is a two way street.

Dark one - great post ......

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I find sex in the mornings to be more receptive.

6 times a month isn't very much,being in a similar situation i feel your pain =(
the above suggestions might work but there's a problem that makes it difficult in that we actually want sex and it's not coming along very often, so when she's interested it's very difficult to say no as we're fighting ourselves as well.
maybe the way to go is to cut out cuddling and whatnot as a response? if she's not giving you what you want then don't give her what she wants.

I found that in this situation being direct is best. Tell her you want more sex.

The reason this works is simply because if she knows shes not giving you enough of what you want....she will feel that you might go someplace else for satisfaction. Especially if you decided to not cuddle with her or initiate sex for a while.

If she still does not come around, then you have a selfish girlfriend. Men need sexual release every 24 to 74 hours, any experienced women knows this. And believe it or not, in good relationships....sex does not only happen when when both people are just chomping at the bit. A good woman will have sex with you to satisfy your needs even if shes not in the best mood sexually. Why? because she wants to keep you happy and relationships are give and take. Also, she wants to make sure no other women can do for you what she can't.

If you still have problems, cut her loose. Lack of sex is an indicator of lost interest or infidelity given that there is no other factors involved like stress or relationship problems

well said