Hey guys, Dating this HB10 at the moment. Heres the situ...We have sort of slept together, it was pretty drunken so Im not really counting it. I went home for Xmas and havent seen her in ~2wks. She flaked on me for new years day but i think she had a genuine reason. Now she hasnt contacted me since then. (I know its only been a few days.) I tried her mobile this morn and no answer. As yet, no call back/txt. Now i was thinking of leaving it a day or so then sending this by txt:

"Hey Darling, Im very busy this week but Ive booked us a table at XXX for Xpm on Friday, you said you wanted to take me there - so im guna let you Just this once though. You'll want to impress, make yourself beautiful for me. If you cant make it I'll have to take someone else".

(She said very early on in our relationship she just went to this restaurant that she'd like to take me to sometime.) I think every aspect of this txt communicates something good. Especially the end!Love that bit. I feel it generally shows alpha, making decisions and is generally awesome.

This is a double barrelled question:
1) Thoughts on whats said in the txt..?
2) Is sending this txt at all the right move?Should i not be contacting her at all, let her chase me?I do want to see her though...(worried that after 2 weeks of being apart, things could dissolve if we cant see eachother fairly soon)? I feel theres this trade-off between Alpha-male taking what he wants and seeing a girl whenever he wants vs. Alpha male not needing to see her, its her who should want to see me...?

Your opinions and replies are highly valued. Cheers guys,
Solo

Hey bud, here's my 2cents

I don’t know how well you knew her before all of this or how much she was into you. But speaking from experience, a girl actually did something like this too me. I met her and we found out that we both liked racketball, so we said we should get together soon and play. It was on a college campus so we go to the same gym and both live close. Well like a half hour after we talked about playing I was hanging out with a HB8 (just friends) and I got a voice mail from this girl I just met.

" Hey its Kay!! I knew you had some time off today and booked us a court for 3pm. Cant wait to play.. SEE YAH!!"

I was like 'holy shit.. what did I get myself into..."
I let my friend who I was hanging with listen to it, and she agreed that it was weird.

Now maybe it was just this girl but I felt like she was WAY too into it, and my "booking us a court" was just too much of a commitment too soon, since we really didnt set a time or date.

This may sound weird to you, but it was a huge turn off to me.

I cant place my finger on it, but it feels like the part about you booking the table, was wierd

Maybe thats what you did to this girl? Maybe by booking a table for you too with out talking about it was too controlling?? I dont know, I'm just shootin from the hip here...haha

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agreed on the whole booking a table, it is a bit "weird" - for lack of a better term. If you want to still convey the same message, try sending something like:

"Hey, I've really had a taste for [cuisine]. How about [day 1] or [day 2] at [restaurant]? If you can't go then I'm gonna have to take someone else."

It says the same thing, but removes any possibility of being taken the wrong way

~GQute

imho i think if you say the "gonna have to take someone else" part you're gonna sound like an asshole. So don't

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I don't know guys, here's the part that worries me: You haven't seen each other for 2 weeks during the holidays then she flakes on you for NYE.... Seems to me like she's blowing you off....

Its got to be congruent with him. If you play c&f alot than you can get away with saying something like this. But if not, dont do it

i mean this in the best way possible...i think you might be clinging to a one nite stand bro.

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