I'm new to this forum, but looking at the community and the kind of bonding everyone here has, i feel comfortable discussing my problems.

Recently i got interested in this girl and after a few weeks she pretty much confessed that she had feelings for me as well. She initiated the terms of endearment , "hey love how's it going, or "i miss you baby".. but come 2010, her birthday on the 2nd everything changed... she went clubbing and had her 2nd party on a yacht..after all that all those sweet smses frequent calls just stopped, she's talks like i'm just any other guy, always saying she's busy and i'm thinking too much, but i know for a fact its different, like she got bored of it.

2 important things. she studies in melbourne and i'm studying in perth.
secondly on her birthday after the she got sloshed she messaged me about how my friend, her ex-bf couldnt even "hold it in for 10mins"..i asked what was with the message and she got all pissed and since then its like the way i described it above..

did i do anything wrong, anything i can do make this better?

thank you guys in advance.

It's a pretty vague story so I'm just gonna say some stuff and then you can respond to it

- Maybe you were too needy (She said you think too much, so I'm assuming you asked her some stuff that made you seem needy).
- Maybe she had sex with her ex-bf ("he cant hold it in", dunno how your australian slang works")
- Maybe she got bored and/or found another guy she's interested in (you say that after the 2nd everything changed, after her party...who knows what happened there with other guys..maybe you can ask a friend/acquaintance that you trust if he's seen or heard anything about that night).

I can't think of a lot else, but you should type out the conversation you had with her through text from (and including) the "hold it in for 10 minutes" one, till now.

I'll watch this topic for your reply and I will get back at you when you type out the texts, so I can see if maybe that's where it went wrong.

Chillburg

I agree completely. 'You're thinking too much' is a line we use on them. Definitely don't ask her about it. You shouldn't ust ACT like you don't care...just don't. Party on a yacht? Sounds like some rich boy bought her time momentarily.

Freeze her out, make her ask YOU what is different. Then pick up where you left off like nothing happened. Now that she knows you give a shit just move on. Your lack of caring now will spark her ego.

No one-itis. Good luck.

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