I'll try to be concise when possible. My GF came over tonight after telling me we needed to talk. We've been dating a bit under six months. Long story short the past month she has been a bitch. She attributes this to her indecision on wether or not she wants to be with me. After talking for 2 hours (mainly she just cried) she broke up with me. SHe told me she loved me but not romantically, but "afraid" to lose me. She came back ten minutes later after she left and asked for me back. I told her if she doesn't love me romantically but as a friend this won't work and were just dragging it out. She insisted if we took our relationship down a level and communicated things would work. We compromised to take a break while she went on a rafting trip for the weekend.

I think this is just going to be dragged out and messy. But I do love her and wish things could go on, but I think we had our Amor fou and it's kaputz.

IMO she want's out but can't let go, but don't want to make a decision to break it off if she wants to work it out.

do any of ous have any experience with this? is this gonna end messy or does it have a chance?

Lol what a compromise. So basically she can keep you on the backburner and hook up with other guys on this raft trip.
I won't be dragged out and messy unless you let it get this way.


Whats all this she shit dude. Your the man in the relationship so start acting like it. Start seeing other women immediately. This along with nexting her and not talking to her for a few days will be more than enough for you to get the power back in the relationship. But do you really want that?!? Think hard about it.....

This relationship went on for six more months and this situation happened two weeks later, again and ended at a year and a month. I wish I didn't ignore the signs. I just read this post and was like wow, I'm a fucking idiot for getting back with this girl.

Let this be a lesson, don't ignore the obvious.

She was indecisive on being with me, wanted independence

Clearly unstable

Not fun to be with

and when the same thing happened again I got back with the girl.

My approach to women is to nieve, I need to be more objective and less emotional. I drageed this out for a year, and the last break up fucking sucked. SO LET THIS BE A LESSON TO YOU!

IF SHE SUCKS, SHE SUCKS NO MATTER HOW HOT SHE IS. and approach things more objectively and confidently I let her have the power, Now I know that won't happen again.

IF SHE SUCKS, SHE SUCKS NO MATTER HOW HOT SHE IS

Amen...

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Too bad you had to learn that lesson the hard way bro.

she sucks

what a twat...Same thing happened to me Dizzler. It's been 3 months since I broke up and even though part of me wants to get back together I am not gonna let myself do it because I know I will get even more hurt. Thanks for your words of warning because you are very right!

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You know guys, it's quite a lesson in itself to be able to pull up old relationship posts and be like wow.

It's really hard to admit that something is over, that even though you spent a year with someone and said you loved her, it doesn't really matter. This girl did everything to remove me from her life. It hurt, really badly. It still does. She just up and said fuck you, a week before she was supposed to come on vacation with me. At first I said fuck women, there all cold bitches. But the real case was that I stumbled upon an unstable girl, stablitized her a few months and everything fell apart. That makes me wonder about my own capabilities. But when I look back on things I remember entering COLLEGE as a freshman and my number one goal: have an LTR. I went to an all-guys high school, and the minute I found a girl who liked me I jumped in a relationship with her, did everything in the book wrong, and lost myself in infatuation. I achieved my goal, but at what cost? I lost myself, a year of my life, lots of money, and failed a few finals as a result of being upset about being dumped.

The main cost of this: The first time I used PUA to pick up an attractive girl I dropped everything for her, and now here I am back at step one. I never learned my own limits, abilities. I don't know what I can do, but I'm excited to find out.

I was so unfamiliar with being attractive to an attractive girl I jumped right into a relationship. But now I have the upper hand, I have standards, I understand women better. I'm on point. I"M USING MY HURT TO MOTIVATE MYSELF TO BE A BETTER PERSON. All this made me realize the importance of having AUTHENTIC inner game. I was without it, and ended up with a crazy chick.

And Her? She has become a total nerd obsessed with her school work and job in the lab, She has no hopes of ever meeting a guy as well-rounded as me. And though I hurt now, and still wish she was in my arms. The more time that goes by the more I realize how much more I have to offer to myself.

Gentlemen, Thank You.