Hi, this is my first question on PUA regarding pickup..
so I have a lunch/movie time with a friend.. not really a date since we just considered hanging out.. but I would like to advance it into a date situation.. any help? Should I just give her some push-pull, neg, fluff talk etc? Which I kinda do since I've met her and I know her from summer but never got to kino... I don't know when would be a good time for kino..since it feels awkward to initiate it..
she might think is weird or too touchy?


thanks,

First thing - don't take her to a movie. It's what a lot of people do but it's pointless cos you'll spend like 2 hours sitting there doing nothing when you could be talking, touching etc etc. Just take her somewhere cool where you can kino and talk as much as you like. Even a walk or something is better than a movie, make sure you're prepared before you meet her to what you're going to do with her. Lunch is cool but don't offer to pay for her, pay half each or whatever otherwise she might take you for a shmuck who'll do anything for her.

You should start kino straight away, if she's not used to your touch at all it's probably best to start by touching her arms lightly when you're talking or hi-5 her if you both agree on something. Even 'accidentally' brushing her arms will get her used to your touch, and it won't be awkward because it's 'accidental' . Then when you go to walk off to wherever you're going hold your arm out at the side so she can link with you. All you're doing is desensitizing her to your touch so you can build it further. If she says anything just don't be phased by it just come across as happy and confident like that's what you do with all girls. Your positivity will rub off on her and she'll associate fun thoughts with you.
Good luck dude

Movies are a no-go. Try to change it.

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bleh.. i see.. she actually offered to pay for movies if i paid for lunch.. and i agreed.. and she has tickets already so i don't think i can turn this around.. maybe next time i guess

KINO is SUPER easy this time of year, chances are she's going to be cold wherever you are going so you can offer your coat/put your arm around her and work from there, simple as that.

As for the movies....there's a chance you might get some KINO during the movie, but if you don't know her well/this is a first "date" then it's probably not the best time, especially during a movie.

Was the movie her idea or yours? If it was hers then she may be wanting to do something but she's too shy to invite you over etc to her place.

My advice for next time is keep it to dinner/coffee(walk) afterwards, or invite her over for a movie(give it some time before trying that one).