Often around the forum you see questions being asked such as "what do I say after this?" or "How should I do the second date"? (Im guilty myself). These questions often limit a PUAs potential and stops him from developing. Let me explain by thinking of the term PUA (Pick-up Artist).

The word "Artist" is the one I want to focus on in particular as shouldn't we view pick up as more of an art? There isn't any set right answer for anything as every girl has different circumstances and characteristics that the PUA involved with her will (should) have a greater understanding of. Sure in this forum we can give general advice about certain situations but isn't it up for the PUA to come up with a creative and risky response that allows him to test his own beliefs.

I believe that its important for a PUA to learn through experience and knowledge combined and the role of the forum should be kept for developing this sort of a mindset and motivation. I understand that for new AFC coming to this community it may be more beneficial for a few pointers in approaching etc in order for someone to get their confidence to a decent level.

Think of being the artist. The artist in pick up means making your own creative risky choices that you will ultimately learn from.

You gotta be inventive sometimes. You can't just read threads straight out of The Game or other books

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I've actually come to the opinion that all you need is belief in yourself and happiness. If you respect and love yourself (not in the cocky sense) others will too.

I used to think game was all strategy and tactics like following models like neg, do this, do that etc but I think now most of it is inner game and/or confidence.

I feel like canned material can actually induce Approach Anxiety because you always have that fear in the back of your head....(the shit what do I say next feeling)

It tends to be easier (for me at least) to have some kind of plan/strategy. This isn't, I'm going to say this, then that, then look over there, then sneeze thirty two point five seconds after I open.

It's more like: Ok she has a friend, remember to include her. Throw in a false time constraint early, and finally actually listen!!! lol Girls will usually do their part to make a conversation or interaction two sided.

Chill out and don't worry about the next step. Eventually you'll feel so comfortable it won't matter.