GF's ex just will not leave her alone, he's overly emotional about everything, saying she's making him feel suicidal or some shit.

Aside from the fact the dude needs to grow up (he's only 18/19) and move on, I really shouldn't be worried should I ?

She gets texts from him when I'm with her and she feels compelled to reply, she has a thing where she replies to every text without fail.

The texts she sends are like, ones to brush him off, like "oohh that's not good" or something.

I've been treating her replies to him (when I'm with her) as a test and have just ignored or acted like it doesn't bother me - is this the right way to be ? Tbh, all he's doing is making himself look worse and me look even better so I'm not bothered lol, just wondering when it'll stop really.

'Spose it's the risk I take getting involved with someone who's only recently ended a relationship, but she's definitely worth it

if he doesnt stop i would go visit him, you 3 or only u and him.. if he keeps with suicide just call the cops.. it should teach him a lesson... tell ue gf u dont want a dead body on your concience hehe.. shows u take it serously just as much as she does.. plus the guy could be fo real with the suicide

if someone talks about suiciding ... you have to take it very seriously...

i once called one of ex girlfriends and told her i was going to suicide.... they thought i was kidding ...... guess what, with my drunk - drugged head i tried to suicide twice ( luckily i failed twice and im still alive )and ended up in a (mental+)hospital .

the guy is really deppressed ... everyone knows doing this won't get anything back including her.... it's a red call it's a warning.

he calls her because he had a hard time dealing with his emotions ... she is the cause / she understands him that's why he calls her.

you should understand both him and your GF ..... nobody deserves a death by suiciding it's a terrible lonely way to die - it's really sad.

let your GF call his parents or some of his friends.. involve other people .. maybe he's depressed and noone knows about. i was fucked up and nobody could see it and nobody knew because i didn't tell anyone about it.
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it all depends on how long he's talking about suicide... if he's talking longer let's say about 2 months about suiciding he can;t get out of his depression.

in any way you shouldn't brush it off .... the best way to help him AND to brush it off is contacting his family. cops don't do shit , cops lock you up but don't help you and this guy needs help.

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Be condescendent with him. Let your girlfriend help him.
I mean, she's YOUR gf now, and he's super emotional, nothing bad will happen to you.
She chose you for one reason, related to same one why she's not with him anymore.

So ... what the hell do I do about it all ?

Next time I see her, bring it up randomly or wait for a cue, like next time he texts her when we're together ?

Obviously if he's telling the truth about the suicide shit then he needs help, he says stuff like his Dad's staying in the same room or something in case, so at least I know his parents are aware of his depression.

But I see on Facebook he's posting about being happy here and there or something.

At the end of the day I dislike the guy and the only reason I want it to stop is for her, don't want that shit on her consciounce and I certainly wouldn't wish anything nearly as bad as his death, nobody deserves that, NOBODY. But I can't exactly help the guy, but how can I help her in this situation ?

Tell her it's OK to talk to him through it, that she wouldn't want anything bad on her consciounce, what else ?

Thanks for all the help so far.

tell you have been thinking about it..

and you understand she wants to help him, and what he is going through..

say he needs help.. and she can help him, but not by txting him, it wont get anywhere..

Tell her she needs to inform her parents and friends about this.. talk to them..
so they are warned...

If it keeps going, call the cops...

She replies to him but doesn't like, try to talk him through it because of the verbal abuse he gave her she just wants him to leave her alone. But I ..... I just don't know what to do.

I love her, she loves me, I had the best night of my life the other day with her. I just can't help but feel it must negatively affect her even though she says it doesn't - of course it does, but we don't like talking about it because we want the time between us to be positive - that's why I don't want to bring it up, why should I put her into that negative frame ? I don't want to do that to her.

Thinking of waiting till it next becomes relevant then try to talk it out, say to her she should contact his family and just say that he's majorly depressed and that he's over-reacting.

They were only together like 2 months but he seems to be the emotionally attached type.

God knows what to do, but I hate it when external things interfere with how much of a good time we have together, I love her though and if this upsets her (even if she won't admit it) I need to help.

I agree with an earlier posting. If he textes her again about suicidal thoughts, tell your gf to call the police AND his parents about his suicidal thoughts.

That should do one of two things...
1. have him get help or
2. stop talking shit if that is what he is doing and he won't call her anymore if she tells him she will call the police again if he starts talking suicidal thoughts again.

Either way, 911 dispatchers HAVE TO take suicidal calls seriously and they WILL send a Police Car to his house.

What is worse, is if this guy is already talking suicide, he is not thinking rationally. So talking to him one-on-one or even all three of you together is a BAD IDEA...Someone could get really hurt or even killed. Trust me, I know someone who almost got shot in the same situation...BAD IDEA. The police came just in time.

I do understand that you gf feels compelled to help her ex, but by her constantly texting him back and is telling him that she still cares for him and he will continue to do this becuase he still HOPES he can get her back...She needs to do what I mentioned above and move on with her life with you.

If you don't do this you WILL BE on a sinking ship.

Best,

J-Dub

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