So I went on a day 2 date with a girl that I had previously f-closed at a work Christmas party. Here's that story: das-boot-for-the-win-vt57947.html

It was going fairly well at first, though she was a lot more shy than I had remembered her being. We walked to a cafe, got tea and talked for forty-five minutes. I teased her about things, got a few laughs out of her, built rapport by talking about our imaginary "happy places" and families and such. After coffee, we walked to a toy store (held hands along the way) where I asked for her help in finding a Christmas gift for my two nephews. Instead, we went through the store and played with almost everything, reminisced about toys we had when we were younger, etc... We kissed in a secluded corner of the store a bit. She seemed a bit hesitant and glanced over her shoulder once or twice, which I chalked up to being shy about the public affection. After that, we hit a music store, browsed, joked about names and the Baja Boys, then browsed through a pet store and petted the animals. At this point, she had to get home to get ready for work, so I walked her home, and kissed her good bye, except this time she turned slightly so that she kissed the corner of my mouth, hugged me, and told me that it had been "nice." Her roommate was sewing in the window right next to the front door, so I suppose it's possible that the girl didn't want to do anything in view of her roommate, but my immediate feeling was that she just wasn't into me by the end of the date.

I was definitely nervous as hell, but I think I masked it pretty well. I think probably my energy was too low, and I might have cussed in front of her a bit too much (a bad habit of mine), and what started as a well thought out plan, feelss like it ended up very AFC style.

Can you guys shed any light on what I might or might not have done to deflate the situation, so that I can learn from my mistakes, if nothing else? I'd like to try and salvage things with this girl, any help or advice would not go unappreciated. (We're both probably going to be heading to our respective homes in the next few days for X-Mas, so unless I try to do something in the next couple of days , I probably won't be able to see her until after the holidays.)

It could be that you're just overthinking things a little bro. She kissed you in a toy store, that's pretty ballsy. A lot of girls wouldnt even do that, so its okay that she was a bit on the lookout then.

Same story with her housemate really. Maybe she didnt feel like being interviewed by her housemate about the two of you.

Just wait for her to seek contact again, if things between you two die a little, then you have a reason to question her attraction to you. But not yet.

Best of luck,

Chillburg

Thanks for the advice man. I read this a bit too late, but I think I steered myself in the right direction anyways. Totally by accident, but whatever.

Saw her yesterday as I got to work, talked to her for a minute. I told her to come say bye to me before she went home (as I was leaving to go home for Christmas immediately after work). Things had been kind of awkward the last time I had run into her at work, so I had assumed that she wasn't into it anymore. I told her to come talk to me with the intention of LJBFing her, just by candidly telling her that I liked her, but could tell that it was only awkward between us, blah blah blah. This did not happen.

Instead, she came out and hung out with me for a second when she was done, and we talked and had a few laughs. Things felt a lot better, so we actually set tentative plans to meet up after the break. We said goodbye, and I had to turn to card someone, and as she was just barely within reach still, she brushed her hand against mine, as if going for a quick hand-squeeze, second occasion that she has done that.

I do feel like she is attracted to me, but maybe she's just very shy about showing affection. I guess I'll be looking to do a lot of comfort building next time I see her, maybe try and make things more playful.

This is the right thing to do, make sure you build even more attraction though, while also building comfort. If you make things more playful, she might drop her guard and will be more affectionate as well.

Best of luck,

Chillburg