So I met this girl through just building my social circle at the pub me and my friends visit. He knew this group of girls and i wanted to get to know them aswell. So I have introduced myself and got talking to a HB5 girl, we are both the same nationality so thought this would be the best way in to build rapport with one of them.

I add HB5 on FB next night through suggested friends, night after HB9 adds me. I get talking to both and decided that I'm going to try and get HB9. After a few good chats on facebook I eventually number close HB9.

Text game has been good and i go for a date, she flakes stating that she is ill. This doesnt phase me and I carry on, i then go for another meet up which is less pressured a few days later. She says she is busy. I then cut down contact and went away for a week which helped.

Come back from holiday and get talking again via text. After a few days were on FB chatting away and its snowing at the time in the evening. I jokingly say we should meet and build a snow man, she agrees so I go with the flow and we meet spur of the moment.

The meet goes great and I K close at the end of the night which was pretty amazing and i start to feel that she is really attracted now. Were then on FB again next night and she asks to meet, I decline as I had prior engagements with family (wouldnt be able to bring her with me) and she jokingly says this is the only opportunity for a date (she says she doesnt like dates night before) so i play it off like nothing and say Ill call her bluff on that. Convo ends all sweet etc.

What my question is, is that in this situation with me kind of flaking is that a good thing and will it turn up the attraction more or is my AFC (trying to destroy the damn thing ) just playing up?

Nah dude you're doing it right. If you would have said "but i guess i could cancel my family" that would have been wrong.

She did a little shit test by saying "this is the only time we can meet" and you passed it by calling it bluff.

You're doing fine, dont overthink things or it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Have you decided what your next move will be?

Best of luck,

Chillburg.

Well her sister is down this weekend for xmas, so I've attempted a meet up to go see Avatar midweek. An she has responded with a 'lol what did i say? u get 1 opportunity...X'

Now I know she wants to go because she really opened up that night and there was a lot of comfort but im not going to reply for a bit let to build a bit of tension, not sure how to respond though.