Yesterday i took my gf out with me and my friends, then we watched a dvd at my place alone, kissed, hugged and held hands. Then we went to a bar, and we had alot of fun ( i made her laugh till she was tearing). However, there has been this guy around her who seems very flirty, and i'm playin it cool and she tells me that i'm the only one she wants and brings him down. But at the bar, he called her and asked her to come to his palce and she told him she can't join him and that she's with a "friend". I didn't comment, and told her to tell him to join us, but she refused. She doesn't seem to want him to know. Basically, today I sent her a msg :
-I feel like going to the movies, do u feel like it?
-her : I dunno babe. I was more thinking like us watching that nice weather, or u watching me ?
-me : haha, yeah u for sure baby. I'll call u when i finish work.
On the phone call we agree to give a friend of ours a visit.
Later she texts me : I can't make it coz i good friend of mine has been insisting on seeing me.
It was a girl friend she talked to me about a few weeks ago that wanted to c her badly. So i called her and she showed me that she missed me. I told her i'm gonna chill with friends, and go to the movies, i'll c her at 12h, 12h30.
After the movie, I call her and she tells me she's still in a bar with her friend and other friends, and I know that the region she's at is close to the guy who's flirty with her.
She tells me, if i don't see u tonight then tmrw ( in college ). I asked her why didn't she ask me to join her if she missed me so much, and she said i dont know.
Then 30 minutes later, i smsd her:
Stick with ur friends coz i'm not seeing u tonight. I was expecting u to ask me to join at least, i wouldve. U were right, words are meaningless, urs for the least.

Then a bit later, i tried calling her a few times, but she didn't answer. I wanted to tell her that if she wants me to be her man, then she should start treatin me like it.

So i txt her : I'm trying to have a healthy relationship with u. So plz answer me, don't act stupid.
Tried calling one more time, but no answer. I mean wtf, I really feel she doesn't want her friends to c i'm with her. Coz she's in a fuckin bar with a bunch of people, with that douche flirting with her. I on the other hand, introduced her to my friends, so there is something uneven here going on. Her words are paradoxial with her behavior.
What should i do?

Honestly? Dump her, she's not giving you any respect.

You made to many mistakes, showing huge needeness. Text, call, text, calls, text...

Uh, I would dump you Anyway, I agree with previous comment. I would just add, you might have problems with dumping her cause she most probably already dumped you. Sounds hard but thats reality.

In future, show WAY MORE respect to yourself and never run for girl, make her run for you.

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All the most successful people, not just PUAs, do not show neediness. Like the previous posts before me have already said, it appears as though she's moved on. The one thing you have to remember is not to be needy. My suggestion is to open some sets and find some other girls.

Forgetting about her for the time being may result in her coming back later.


Phoenix - "Women want sex as much as men, they're just generally less forward about it."

First off you should've said something when she said "i'm with a friend.."

Then go like "Yeah and i'm with my mother"..

When she first told you she couldnt make it to the meet up.. you shouldnt have asked her to come after for another meet up.. you should've just ignored her till the next day...

She is playin with ya man..... Also you say Wrong, you shouldnt even ask her to do it, shows you are very week... She SHOULD do it, without you even having the need to mention it..

Anyway i feel for ya man... It happens to all of us that we get too needy...

Just ignore her, and wait till she says something... then just act cool, cold, disinterested... i think...

my 2 cent

Ok ok ok bro chill out...first of all you need to stop calling and txting so much you really look desperate! You should only need to get your point across once mabey twice and then ignore her until she contacts you...you look super needy and you cant fight fire with fire

Second calm down! I know you are trying to do the right thing by standing up to her (I I applaud you good job!) but you are going about it in the wrong way. When call somone names and freak out they will put up a wall and get deffensive! Right now you are walking into her trap...she wants you to get pissed because she feel like she is now in control and also If you break up she can point the finger at you and call you an ass hole.

What you need to do is stay very very calm! you make your point with few words and be stern...In this situation I would have said to her: "It seems to me that you are not ready for a relationship and that ok but I dont play games we are either a couple or we are nothing...I have enouph girls who are my friends I dont need another one" she prob would say she like you and at that point you tell her that you are her man no one eles and that she needs to start treating you like a bf and not like a budy. If she gets mad or says somthing you dont like then you say "Ok thats fine I can see that we dont want the same things I understand" then leave dont call her dont do shit....you move on if she doesnt call you but chances are she will call you.

Why would you txt and call so many times? for example lets say I called you and wanted to borrow your coat...you arnt around so I leave a msg telling you I want to borrow it, then I txt you and ask, then I txt again an hour later, then I call three more times...you would start to think I was kinda crazy would you? She got the msg the first time...you got your point across dont worry...I know it can be hard not to call when you like somone but she is testing you and you just failed her first test.

i would have dropped her at the end of the night that you two were at the bar, just would have told her "see you friend" as i was leaving her, after that cut off all communication

Every women will test you in one way or another...In the first few months of a relationship women are "trying you out" so to speak...I would say the first 3-6 months is an un easy time in most relationships because the women is testing to see if you are really "the one" and If you are the same guy she fell for or if it was just an act. If you make it past the 6 month mark with a women with out drama, cheating, and you are both still happy then there is a good chance that you will last as long as you dont let her walk all over you...if there is loads of drama, cheating, miss trust ect ect then it wont last.

I agree with the majority of the posts here. You appear needy to her and you didn't take the hint when she referred you as just a 'friend'.

Stop contacting her right now and start seeing other girls. The more you keep thinking about it the more damage you will do to yourself.

She doesn't respect you and the more you keep pursuing her the more you will push her away.

Good Luck,

J-Dub

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