We're both 17, she's fine as hell and has a great personality.. but i failed to be there for her when i knew she loved me. after we broke up i played the guitar for her and told her i loved her for the first time. idk if this was too much but i wanted to make it clear i did care. i know most of u would say move on but she's that girl whos right up with my high standards yaddada mean? if theres no hope i guess thats what ill do..ive hooked up with a couple chicks since then but i can't seem to enjoy myself doing it.

Now she's seeing this 22 year old guy whos also in a punk band like me..and also knows the game. im losing her and i don't know how to get back with her. is there no hope? xmas break is coming up, seeing her fucking this guy makes me puke. i got my guitar from her house today and he was there. ugh.

well should i invite her to my formal dance in about a month? i told her she was my dancing partner and qualified with an A- when we were going out. i plan on not talking to her for that time. this is what i want to say but would appreciate any advice. Shes very aloof and has this guy with her.

"Hey you qualify for a good dancer, A-. Want to go to formal with i? just as friends no worries, i want to keep it fun." saying this i want to make it a little stress free with our past.

Advice would be appreciated..im hella stuck here. i do care about her and its hard to let go..but i know that if i somehow got time to hang out with her i would make her attracted to me. Her aloofness makes it too hard..

I definitely know what it feels like to lose a cool, gorgeous girl. My girl just broke up with me and is now, apparently, hooking up with some guy in a band. I feel your pain, it sucks. Even though I know this is the last thing you want to do right now, you don't really have a choice. You need to stop showing her that you care. By asking her to this dance, you are not only conveying your interest and value in her, you are acting needy. She knows that she can have you whenever she wants, and she is exercising her options. She is in the driver's seat, and you are sitting in back in the bitch seat. Believe me, I've been there.

My advice to you-- get in the drivers seat. The first way to do this is to prove that you do not need her in her life. Stop texting and calling her! Delete her from your phone! I know its hard to just flip the off switch to your emotions, but at least act like you don't care. If you really want to win her back, you need to play with her circuitry. I know you are going to see this girl in school, especially if she is in your circle of friends. When you interact with her, make sure you act in a way that says, "I dont give a shit what you do with other guys because you lost your chance with me. You are more than welcome to be friends with me, but nothing more than a fuck buddy." Make her feel that attraction for you again. Be challenging, dominant, secure, and confident!.

Take someone else to your dance and have a great time. When she sees you, she will naturally become aware again that you are desirable; more importantly, she may feel jealous. If she gets jealous, act like it doesn't bother you because it shouldn't. If you take her back, she knows that she can walk all over you whenever she wants. Remember--The best way to forget about a girl youre crazy about is to keep yourself occupied and and meet as many girls as possible- you are on the rebound! So remember, you are not trying to win over this girl or get her back into a relationship.