Yes yes yes now you and her are on the path to success. It was good that you talked it out. Now all it's going to take is patience from you, and effort from her, and both reminding each other that you're BOTH just working towards her feeling more comfortable with it. It's important to portray it as a mutual thing, not just something you want.

Yes that is exactly what I would do, reward her for her efforts, congratulate her.

And if she makes the slightest bit of progress - be excited about it! Make her feel good for it! She will want to do more. It's just like Pavlov's dog. Classic conditioning. All my sexual progress with a girl has been made with me being excited and happy for every little step, comparing it to how it was before and showing the improvement.


What to not do? Anything you did before that caused a negative response in her. Don't be upset about lack of progress. Be supportive - "Don't worry, I know you can do this - you've done it before!" smiling, kind of statements.

Naturally all this has to come from you and be delivered in your way.


And that was a good move letting her make the call. If you're both at the understanding that this is something you both want to work on, and you make sure she's happy, and comfortable, and really aroused, it's going to excite her to be the one to say "Okay, let's try it now." And when she does, reward her with your excitement. Women love to know they can please men. She will want to do it more.