Hey guys, first post for me and not really sure if this is necessarily the right place for it. However, I'm sure you modern day Cassanovas will offer your invaluable expertise nonetheless.


A little background on my involvement with the community (or lack thereof):

I saw Mystery's show on tv, then went online to look up some more info and stumbled upon this huge online movement helping chumps get laid all over our planet. I read 'The Game', started reading a lot of articles about pretty much every aspect of the pickup process from a bunch of different authors, and started thinking a lot differently about relationships and sex.

This was about a year ago and I have to admit I really haven't put much of what I've learned into practice. What I can say I have used to my advantage is some of the inner game stuff as well as comfort building, sexual escalation, etc. Just the basic psychological stuff has gotten me laid in situations where before I definitely never would have. Despite that, I dont go out with pua wings, don't do cold approaches or really every any day game. So i'm very much a rookie which is why I've decided to post a question and try to get some feedback from you guys.


So there's this chick that works at this cafe and I want to attract her and try to get to know her better (and yes I would ideally like to sleep with her). I had a coffee at her cafe with a couple of my friends and I made the mistake of saying to her 'Hey haven't i seen you before?' I in fact had seen her before working at some bar somewhere else in the city but I had never talked to her before, and I didnt tell her that I had seen her before. She replied with a general answer and walked away because she was busy serving tables. That's all I said to her as of yet, and I'm wondering how I should go about this now. What should I do next time i go in there? I was thinking to go there with a female friend and maybe try and talk to her again? What should I say to her and not creep her out? I dont want to come off stalker-ish and I want her to for whatever reason perceive me as a high value male and find sexual interest in me.

So, any advice would be greatly appreciated and I'm sure this is probably the one millionth time someone has asked a question like this so I apologize for that in advance.

The more I think about this situation,the more I think I've answered my own question.

I need to stop focusing on this one girl who I dont even know, and start building up my own skills and lifestyle. I need to go out and meet lots of chicks, make lots of friends, have fun hobbies, lead an active healthy lifestyle, and I wont have to ask for advice on how to pick up random waitresses but instead it will come naturally.

can't really add to that, well said