Im very new to all this stuff, i have been in a relationship for over 5 years and recently single so i'm just trying to get as much advice as pos.

I seem to be ok at approaching people standing still esp alone but i often spot girls walking, this seems more difficult when they have just passed you, i mean if you go running after them that would look a bit AFC right? Any pointers for getting someone to stop in there tracks and chat?

Mostly i'm sargin in clubs and i know people say this isn't the best spot but im getting over my AA and it seems to work a bit for me.

Any help would be great!
Thanks!

TT

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Tony T

If you turn around and go out of your way to approach, you must use a direct approach.

Okay If she's a bit a crazy girl this MIGHT work. I just made it up so comments and FIELD TESTS would be nice. I actually might give it a go myself...


Look back.. stand there... "Hey.."
she turns around "eh yeah...?"

"You know what the odds are that we met? All the things we could have done, all the friends, parties, invitations to social gatherings.. all the routes to our destination... and yet with all those posibilities we pass eachother..... that's quite a small odd isn't it?"
"eh yeah guess so.."
"Then this is quite special."

From here we could try a lot. To look even more like a freak ask her how many times 9 is in 0 to 100 (it's 20... also counting 91 92 93 94 - 99).. And that all these things are pretty cool.

Then some other routine that is not -HEY IM A WEIRDO- related could be in place.


Opinions?

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Hi, I need your female opinion on this...

I think that last one sounds pretty heavy, i reckon a girl with even a little girl would be fed up by the middle of that line. and a little weird, ha, but who knows?

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Tony T

okay couldnt try it today since I had to work from home, but I said it to a girl I recently met trough a Dutch social network... we've been chatting for 2 days so "I'm in" already (txting and meeting up friday... )

Told her about... can you imagine... the odds that we'd met?

She loved it. Still as an opener: indeed quite heavy and weirdo-alike (as I said).


Important note:
You have to present it in a very FRIENDLY, ENTHAUSIASTIC, honnest way. In a clever way, some pauses... not looking at her while saying stuff... use body language... Make her comfortable by showing your more into what you're thinking than into her.

Def worth a shot...

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Hi, I need your female opinion on this...

If you're with a wing this might work (has for me in the past) if you're nearish to the HB or set speak quite loudly so they pretty much have to listen and mess around, joke and stuff. If they laugh that gives you an excuse, say see i told you I'm funny! To you're friend, "Aren't I funny?" To her, she'll probably nod and laugh or whatever then you play the whole see she loves me I'm leaving you for her. Its not a perfect routine but that general thing has worked for me in the past

This is what I do to a moving target.

As she walks by me I try to 'tap' or 'hook' her hand into mine. When she turns, I stare her into her eyes (smiling) and say "Oh,I'm sorry I thought you were someone else"...After that I look for IOIs, etc. Once I see the IOIs, I go in and start rapport. If not I normally just let her go on her way.

Sometimes when they walk away after the "I'm sorry..." line they come back later asking me if the person I thought she was finally came. At that point you are in.

This method works for me at least 30% of the time. But that is better than the possibility of never seeing them again.

The worst thing that ever happened to me using this approach, the girl would just jerk her hand from mine and continue walking without saying a word.

All you can do it try it and see if it works for you...

Best,

J-Dub

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J-Dub in DC

Its better to be the predator than the prey.

You need to be a good player if your gonna be successful at the game.