Problem - Focusing too much on my game in a club!



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PostPosted: Mon Dec 14, 2009 9:01 am 
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I have noticed several times, when I have been going out on a serious sarging night out I have, been feeling under pressure to perform and pull my game together. I have been over thinking, how do I approach this set? What openers to use? etc... Also I have been showing this pressure and concentration on my face. Often people have said, 'What is wrong?', so on. I know this is a problem and a club environment should be fun and exciting but it easier said than done.

Any ideas and help on what to do? Please? :?

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I have noticed several times, when I have been going out on a serious sarging night out I have, been feeling under pressure to perform and pull my game together. I have been over thinking, how do I approach this set? What openers to use? etc... Also I have been showing this pressure and concentration on my face. Often people have said, 'What is wrong?', so on. I know this is a problem and a club environment should be fun and exciting but it easier said than done.

Any ideas and help on what to do? Please? :?
Yeah, I have a few thoughts...first of all check out this video!

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The problem is you are in your head trying to figure out what to do. Being in your head is the #1 enemy in field. You are in your head because you are putting pressure on yourself to get the girl. Like Sinn said, "The point of going out and picking up girls is that its FUN!. It's not like dismantling an atomic bomb!"

The other thing is that you really care if the sets open and if you get the girl. The truth is that when you care it comes across to the girl. When you don't give a shit if you get the girl or about the girl its when you start getting results. Just go out and have FUN, stop caring about if you get the girl! Think of what Sinn said with the analogy with the little kids go out and have FUN with the girls with a playful attitude. :)

~Jon

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