Hi.
I met this girl at my university. We've talked and flirted a bit. She seemed to be interested. Then there was a party last weekend. We talked for long, flirting, touching and stuff like that. Later I went for the kiss and she kissed me back. Great. Pretty textbook gaming it seemed. We hung out for the rest of the night and talked and kissed. I ended up getting her number - she didn't seem to be interested in going any further that night.

Three days later I texted her asking if she was interested in getting a cup of coffee with me. She replied that she didn't think it would be such a good idea though it was sweet of me to ask.

I figure that she has a boyfriend, has recently come out of a long relationship (the always irritating classic bad excuse) and that I should've have tried harder to go all the way with her at/after the party.

Has anyone experienced anything similar? Women suddenly losing interest for what seems to be no good reason. Any suggestions about what to do now except forgetting about her?

Thanks.

Were u needy at the party? and was trying to kiss her? u should act like ur the prize and she is lucky to kiss u, plus i love the routines were it seems like ur going to kiss her and than u dont, makes her question y u wouldnt and if she is good enough. than when u do, they go nuts
i would have reply "i wasn't asking u out on a date misy, get over yourself:)"

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No I didn't feel I acted needy really. It was more of an equal situation which was cool. I didn't feel I had to game around with her. I was just my own self. She seemed genuinely interested. That's why it's so weird now.

i actually find that to be pretty common for girls. i have mostly female friends and depending on there personality some of them kinda go for things when there in the moment, like that party. the right timing is key for girls. sometimes i dont no why myself, but it just is. i winged my freind in a set a while back and he kissed a girl he had flirted with all night, at a party. later the next day he was seein if she wanted to hang out and she didnt want to, although i no she was and still is into him
its all about the timing for some women, like there "chance" of something happening might not happen the right way a different night

mR.e

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dont even think just do it!

also sometimes girls talk to their "war council" and will be persuaded that your are a bad choice. just do what the previous guy said, let her know that you are the prize and you'll be back in it. I think next time you invite her out, definitely have a few other females if you can. let her know that your time is valuable and if she doesn't fight for it , you'll give it to someone else.

day 2s from parties and clubs are a lot different from day 2s from daygame or something of the sort. Typically the girl may have had alcohol where their inhibitions are changed, so she was having a good time with you, but then she looks back feeling guilty like it was the alcohol talking, when it was actually you. Girls are typically pretty self protecting when it comes to day2 alcohol situations, they tend to think it was the alcohol that made you interesting, and not the fact that you're just an interesting guy.

Like another person said, the war council comes into effect where, the majority of the time, the other girls are going to do nothing but tear you down. Typically;

1. If they're with guys (the group) and their guys are more attractive, but not wildly more attractive, they will give you positive reviews
2. If they're with guys (the group) and their guys are less attractive, they'll give you negative reviews
3. if they're by themselves, they will give you negative reviews.

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