Sometimes it seems like in relationships there are situations or times that are not easy to handle. Like sometimes a situation may force you to compromise being alpha. I'm sure a lot of you guys have been in situations that are confusing so hopefully some of this will make sense.

This past week with my girlfriend has not been the best. A term that best describes her mood this past week would be "indifferent". She usually is very happy and excited to be aroung me, but lately she seems bored or could care less. I believe it is due to me having to compromise being alpha to be there for her. Here are some situations that happened:

1) One night this week she had a babysitting job. Earlier that day we had just got dumped on with snow (almost 15 inches) and she was scared to drive, so she wanted me to come with her to babysitting. So I had to drive her there and stay the whole time. This was a tricky situation for me because I couldn't sound like an asshole and tell her she is on her own, but at the same time she seemed like she could care less that I was there for her.

2) The night I babysat with her, I spent that night at her house. The next morning I left to go to my house before she left for work. About a half hour after I left, she calls me up and bitches me out because I didn't move her car out of the garage for her. I told her that the driveway seemed fine to drive so it was never an issue. I can understand her being frusturated, but I feel like she shouldn't be taking it out on me.

3) Another night this week we were together, she spent a majority of the time texting on her cell phone and not paying attention to me. Not that it is a big deal for her to text, but I didn't want her to get the feeling of taking me for granted.

4) She automatically expects that when we go somewhere together that I have to drive. She says that she is scared to drive (even though the roads aren't that bad). I can understand her not wanting to drive, but I don't want her to feel like she can take me for granted in that aspect. She even made the comment "I like that I can get you to drive for me"

5) Here is a situation where I turned it around on her. It was cold outside and she had to move her car off the street. She didn't want to do it, so she said to me in a sweet voice "Baby if you move my car in for me, I'll give you a blowjob". Normally I would be all for this, but considering she could care less I was there earlier, I told her "No, you can do it". After I said this, her attitude changed and she became more sweet.

Have you guys ever been in situations similar to this were you feel like you have to compromise to not seem like a jerk?

Thanks!

I think that you have to stand up to her a bit more. Maybe even freeze her out for a while even if it does make you seem like a jerk cause she seems to be testing you quite a lot here to see how much she can walk over you. If she spends the entire time texting while your with her get up and leave. If she bitches about stupid shit tell her to grow up and that she may be used to talking to other people like that but you wont stand for it. Tell her to grow up and when she's ready to apologize to give you a call or pay you a visit. With the driving thing just be like look next time we're going somewhere your driving and if she says yes but doesnt keep her word dont go with her, just call it off until she gets the message "Im not your bitch, you can't walk over me". I know it may sound harsh and yes you might come across as a jerk but she'll respect you more for standing up to her cause just now I dont think she respects all that much given the way she talks or treats you.

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That is some great advice dude...thanks!

This past weekend another tricky situation came up:

My gf and her friend have a duplex. The plumbing fixtures were shitty and the landlord was trying to make my gf and her friend pay for the updates. The landlord got a plumber over to the house and a problem happened. This plumber was able to get the landlord to pay for the updates. My gf and her friend were in love with this guy because of it. I felt like I committed a DLV because I was not able to get the landlord to make payments. My girlfriend even made the comment "I love this guy so much", which really pissed me off.

Things got even worse. While the plumber was there, multiple times he was checking out my girl. I caught him looking at her a couple of times and he quickly turned away. Every time he talked with her, he tried to do so in a flirty tone. This douche-bag plumber knew that my girlfriend was with me. So my gf's ugly friend goes up to him and asks if he would like to get her phone number. He gladly accepted it.

I have a feeling that the guy accepted her phone number to use as a gateway to try and get with my girl.

What do you guys recommend the best way to handle a guy who likes your girlfriend?

Thanks again guys!