Maybe I'm just a fucking pussy. I wasn't sure which part of the forum to post this in so thought this would be the best place. I get depressed and mad really easily, and this is made even worse by the fact that most of the girls I've arranged to meet with recently have flaked. right now as I write this I have tears streaming down my face because some other bitch who I really liked and thought would be good gf material is playing stupid fucking head games with me. I have agreed to meet up with a girl on Friday, and another on Saturday, and now I'm expecting those to flake too. If I get in a bad mood I'm gonna end up saying something to them, that will probably fuck it up. I'll try my best not to, but sometimes I get so angry and depressed that I just can't help it. Does anyone else have this problem? Am I just over-reacting? Am I just a fucking pussy?

dude, you gotta chil. you've got Moneitous. (multiple-oneitous) you gotta quit building these "meetings" up in your head. stop thinking about what they have to offer you. your the one with the goods. if their "flaking" on you, find a way to show them that it doesn't bother you. your building these girls up so high that when shit crumbles, it tears you down. i've had girls bail on me too man. it tore me up just like it is to you. i got over it because i finally realized that i'm not the one missing out on one hell of an adventure. their loss bro, not yours.

wait til after christmas so you dont have to buy any of them a gift =)

well... sometimes when girls flake on you its because your simply don't express enough emotion when you hang out with them.. As a PUA you get so caught up with using the right (as in opposite of left) side of your brain to be really smooth everytime. IN the process of this you sort of forget about simply doing what gets normal guys laid, expressing emotion and attraction.

that was my problem at least... Remember when gaming and stuff, kino alot. In fact try doing stuff like holdng a girls hand, even when you know it won't lead to sex. Its bad to come off as needy, but you can still express emotion by just telling them "you like her,." Even do random shit like call them to see how they're doing, it doesn't have to be for a date or hanging out. SHow more interest in knowing what they're about rather than interest in just showing them a good time.

any girl with lots of friends doesn't finds it hard to put time aside for an hour date with a guy she isn't sure of, so let them be sure about it. That means your interested in her as both a girl and as a person . As a PUA your never supposed to come off as needy or startled by beauty, but at the same time your not supposed to be introverted. Remember your an alpha male, don't be afraid to express what you have for girls. Girls make decisions based on emotions, and they wont like you until theyre sure you like them and what they're about.

So your HW: your going to not give a shit about hanging out with any of these girls. Just call them up, and see how they're doing, and show complete no interest of meeting up. When you say hello make sure you put in as much energy as possible, like your speaking to an old frend you haven't seen an ages. a borin "hello whats up" will not open them up on the phone. Make sure you remember what they're telling you.. When you call them be laid back and even neg them. Remember, your already friends that know each other. Some PUAs will tell you that this is being needy, but its the complete opposite. your just calling to say whatsup.. being needy is always chasing after a date..

I know you already have good social skills considering that you have girls' numbers. SO just relax, and concentrate on having them in your life first, then hooking up with them will eventually come along.

Thanks guys. I'm just really starting to hate women seriously. They seem to act all interested, leading me on, and then start fucking me about flaking and playing head games. It's just making me worse because I'm constantly in a bad mood over this shit, just don't trust any of them whatsever and last night was the worst. I get really depressed and I lose my temper quickly. Yeah I guess I have been building them up a bit too much, and loyalknicksfan you're probably right about me not showing much emotion - I struggle to show that with anyone, and that's probably part of the reason why I flip out tbh.

Yeah I understand that. I just hate this game sometimes.

DOnt worry about it man.. just don't let it get through your head.. Your not the only one with this problem.

I am 24 now and I used to have the same problem as you in college.. I used to be smooth and i literally knew every hot girl in my school but couldn't really do anything with them.. Now that I look back I realized that if I just opened up to these girls on an emotional level (show them that I'm more than just about having a good time) I could've F closed all of them.. There was always this voice inside my head that told me "DOn't do that, its creepy. DOnt tell her that its creepy. Don't put your arm around her, its creepy"".

Considering that you already have these girls on your phone and you probably number closed, I know that social skills aren't something you lack. ONce you start getting used to building an emotional connection, your problem will be having too many girls in your life.

I just hate how complicated it is. Like now I've gotta figure out how to stop women flaking on me, when a lot of the time it was them who asked me to come out in the first place, like they really seemed to be into it you know? And then they fuck about, change their minds. They tell you one thing then do another rather than just being straight and telling the truth. We can't just get to know eachother and figure out whether we like eachother or not, we have to play these stupid games of playing hard to get and DHVing and making people jealous and we have to come on a site to talkwith other guys about 'tactics' and 'routines'. I wish it was just simpler.

Thanks man. I've arranged to meet with this girl Friday, and another on Saturday, and maybe one on Sunday. Hopefully at least one of them shows up. I'll try my best.

Your emotional instability turns girls away from you, because you're being a downer and out of touch with your masculine core. The place inside you that is made of pure confidence must be used if you're going to overcome these thoughts of self-defeat.

Because it is you that allows yourself to become angry and depressed over these things, and you do have the power to relax and not care a bit what is going to happen, because you know its all good when you are confident.

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Nah I disagree. I thought it was simple. They seemed really interested, and a few asked me to see them, not the other way around. Then they flaked, and seemed uninterested. I was pretty confident that they liked me, and that they wanted to meet up with how they acted towards me, and then they suddenly changed. Just a string of these made me depressed. I'm feeling ok now, managed to meet up with this one girl I've been after for months, she flaked on me a lot, but I fucked her this morning. I still don't know what I did differently to stop her flaking. I know this is not the original topic of the post, but do any of you have any tips on how to prevent flaking? Or how to treat them afterwards?

Yeah I just let it get to me too much. Big string of girls flaking on me and fucking me about just knocked away my confidence.

I'm afraid to say it, but the problem isn't really with THEM, but it is probably with you. Those chicks can probably sense your desperation, they can smell it. The moment you loose this idea that these girls are just sexual objects, because believe me, THIS is how you are seeing them at the minute. There is no way a normal person can get so obsessed about not just one woman, but each one you meet so easily without no real interaction. Once you do this, realise that dating is all about having fun and not a specific end goal, is the point where you'll have more successes.

Unfortunately, it that sobering paradox.

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If you want sex, I'm sure you can find a hooker and/or slut.

You get way too emotional. Women think with their emotions and Men normally think with logic when it comes to relationships and dating. This is why a lot of things that Women do makes no sense to most men and vice versa.

Women are not going to be interested in you unless you make them FEEL interested because like I said, women are emotional creatures. They go by what they feel.

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