Right as petty as this may seem there's a girl who I pretty much fell in love with a while back but she broke up with me and ya da ya da heartbroken etc. Obviously i'm over that now and the feelings are gone etc. However! She is extremely hot, and almost as a matter of pride or to prove to myself i'm not as big a loser as I once was pining after her I feel compelled to sarge her.
I don't see her much any more but its easily arranged, we're still friends and everything. The catch is she has a boyfriend, is a little stuck up and I was probably (and embarrassingly) clingy when we broke up.
So, would love advice on how to conquer this one! Its been a while so it could just be a usual approach etc. but she'll probably still see me as 'the ex' and all that. How do you re-create yourself to a girl that already thinks she knows you?
I'm thinking a LOT of C&F, maybe some heavy DHV stories that revolve around me not being a pathetic love-struck puppy
Any help?

My honest advice would be to get over her and move on. You're obviously still have strong feelings for her, no matter how much you say you don't. Have you ever heard of "comfort vs growth", you're allowing yourself to still want her because you had her before, it's time to grow and get something new.....ha she already did.

Ouch... ^^ is truth. What are you trying to accomplish here? Saving face? or getting her back in bed? If you wanna save face, I'd say cut your losses and hope she doesn't talk to any girls you might meet in the future... IF you're trying to get her back in bed... I'm not sure... the only thing that ever worked for me, was playing the friend thing, and being that one person she knew she could call when she got in to some trouble... That's just chance though. I'm interested to see what others have to say though...

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If you mind being an asshole, here's the rule for being single. Don't fuck anybody you wouldn't date, and don't expect to date every girl you fuck.

Honestly? She isn't worth the time. You need to get your sh*t together and GOFTOW (Go find/f*ck ten other women). Trying to prove you're not a loser in this situation only strengthens the fact that you were one. Alpha males have nothing to prove. Get with the act.

Let go of the bruised ego man... Its weighing you down.

Dude seriously you are only asking for trouble. She is an ex and there is a REASON why she is an EX.

I feel the same FUCKING BULLSHIT FEELING.

She was FUCKING AMAZING and you can pinpoint EXACT CERTAIN WUSSBAG STUPID FUCKING THINGS that you did to FUCK IT ALL UP.

Now that you CANT HAVE HER, you WANT HER EVEN MORE. In my case I was actually getting tired of this girl.... 3 years in the relationship and then after the breakup I realized she was THE BEST THING I HAD GOING FOR ME.

So what am I doing to fix this?

Getting on with my life. Getting better grades and a better job. And going out WAY more then I used to. Trying to GET A HOLD OF THIS FUCKING GAME SHIT so I can have all the hott women I want. And if after ALLLL that shes STILL "the one" for me I'll let simple PRE SELECTION and the game that I learned from gaming other girls do the rest.

In short: There is one goal in my mind for practicing game. One goal in mind for EVERY approach: FIND OUT IF MY GIRL WAS ACTUALLY THE ONE AND IF SHE WAS, THEN GET HER THE FUCK BACK IN MY LIFE.

hope that helps your emotional situation somehow cause it sure helped me to get that out

Yeahh reflecting on all the feedback I have to agree it probably would be more trouble than its worth. I think i need to get over stupid pride, I'm not still pining for her its more the "god every time i see you i feel like a nob", but yeah thank you

Yes, revenge can only lead to disaster... You need to remember that a person in control doesn't need to prove himself, which in your case you are trying to do by trying to get revenge.

If you do go the revenge route it will only make you look worse, not only to your ex but everyone around you (buddies included) and any potential future targets as well. So just move on and stay in control of your own emotions.

Who knows, if your ex sees you having a good time and can compose yourself you MIGHT win her back, but if you go the revenge route, you will lose any chance of reconciling what was left.

A true PUA is cool and in control, doesn't care if a girl goes out with him or not while at the same time aristocratic. Display of or an act of revenge is neither cool or being in control and definatley not aristocratic by any means.

Cheers,

J-Dub

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