Guys,

So I recently asked out this cute girl who works at this physical rehab place I've been going to. She seemed flirty and friendly enough so I finally sacked up and suggested dinner and boom I got the number and we set the date.

The date itself was last night and honestly it went really really well. This girl is very good looking so I made a concerted effort to not compliment on her looks and would tease her (but very playfully). I felt like I was getting a ton of IOI's which included lots of eye contact, body turned towards me and leaning forward, and some arm linking at times. For whatever reason I was feeling in the zone with jokes and being funny and she was especially giggly - so she ended up laughing a lot. Intitially I though the laughing was a great sign but after the close to our night I'm not so sure.

So I picked her up at her place, we went out to dinner, bounced outside for a walk and then made our way to a bar for a round of drinks. After that I took her back to her place and we small talked as I prepared to go in for the kiss close. I got the kiss but it was quick and felt like more of a polite thing from her than anything with real passion. She mentioned that she was feeling a little tipsy (sounded like a lame excuse because we barely drank) and that she had a good time. Then after the kiss she gave me a final hug and by this point I was steaming mad. That's how the night ended.

I'm usually pretty good about sensing interest and I felt like the date itself proved that there was a ton of mutual attraction. I told stories, got laughs, had a little kino (clearly not enough) and overall actually had a good time myself. There weren't any awkward pauses and the conversation flowed naaturally to different subjects. So where did I go wrong?

I think maybe I was playing and working for too many laughs...maybe I was too jokey and not sending out enough of a sexual vibe. That very well could be as I've done that in the past. At the same time, I asked her out - made it clear we were on a date - and went for the kiss with no apologies. All I got out of it was her quickly and lamely apologizing for being a little drunk and tired. I'm pissed. She did say she'd like to hang out again but I need to make sure that the next time I see her things escalate and she can see me in a more romantic light.

So what's my play from here on out? I don't think she's big into texting (she mentioned this on the date at one point) so I'll hold off on I think. I was thinking maybe I call her tomorrow night to set up our next meet. My main questions are, what do I need to do on the second hang out to ensure a real kiss close and maybe more. Do I need to kino more? If so with what techniques? Should I cool it on the jokes and up the romantic talk? Any thoughts? Thanks guys...I just want to seal the deal.

-Castle

I think you analyzed yourself really well, and dont really need our help. You already said you maybe were too playful, you should indeed try to be more seductive next time. Dont text her but call her for the next meet.

When you meet again, after kino escalation and triangle-gazing just stare into her left eye (your right) and tell her something like "We should re-do our first kiss because I feel that I can do so much better than that". Dont wait for her to respond and just go in for the kiss after that.

Good luck bro,

Chillburg.

In addition: If she makes another lame excuse next time you kiss her - ask her straight out what her problem is. Who knows, you may not even be the cause of it.

Good luck to you.

Thanks for the advice guys. Yeah I've sort of been replaying exactly what happened in my head and I've come to two possible conclusions - she has a kissing on the first date policy....or....she just wasn't that into me in a sexual way. I need to make sure that it's not the latter.

So what do you guys think is a good choice for the next hangout? I want it to be less formal like the dinner we had and more out and about and fun - basically some sort of activity that would be more conducive to getting physical with her. I haven't contacted her since the date which was on Saturday night and was thinking about calling her tonight after she gets off work.

Let me know what a good second date/meet would be. I like her but I need to work a little bit on this I think.

-Castle

How about paintballing? If she's not your typical girly girl OH SHIT MY NAILS girl.
It's badass, its adventurous, it will show a sexy manly side. When you're done you can check out her bruises n shit and rub them. Give her a little backrub or tell her you're a bit sore from falling and get her to rub you.

Chill-

Not a bad suggestion at all but I do get the feeling that she probably wouldn't go for that but I like the idea. She is a bit of a girly girl but I like your thinking...I think if I suggest another more formal date she may just not want the pressure and stress of that. I don't want her to get the impression that I'm riding all my hopes on her to come through as a potential gf. I want her to see me as more of a fun and spontaneous guy who is just looking to enjoy her company.
-C

also you may want to try changing locations several times to create the illusion that you have known each other a lot longer. This will (as you know) create stronger comfort and attraction when mixed with strong sensual eye contact.
I love eye contact personally, its the one weapon in my arsenal that has got the job done all by itself, start to finish.