Greetings,

I posted this because I really need your help. My girlfriend and I broke up recently after 1 year of dating. We were living together but went to different schools and hung out in different groups.
She started dating someone else who is really into her. (is always telling her he loves her , he even cried when he told her it, playing romantic songs, doing everything for her, it's moving really fast) They are always together and i'm pretty sure they are in the honey moon phase.

As of now we still f and hang out, and all that, but we are inevitably drifting apart.

I'm debating using a b/f destroyer technique on the other guy, talking him up, how perfect they are for each other and turning down sex. Saying I want to be a close friend but don't want to get in the way of a good thing.

My goal is keep a higher value, and be able to be there when their honey moon phase runs out and get her back on my terms.

Any advice, thoughts, warnings would be appreciated.

I would also add that I've been playing hard to get, but staying friendly.
I'll really make an effort to screen some calls and than when we do talk make it really good, and than have to leave to do something fun without her.


Her feedback is that she says she wants me back and wants to give it another shot. But also wants to explore things with this other guy as she has some feelings for him, and wants to be certain about her feelings for me.

Am I being played?

dump the bitch ... don't let her use you .. don't wait for her

jezus dude .... either she wants you or not ..... there is no i want half of you ... your pregnant or not pregnant .. you can't be half pregnant.

wat she basically is saying ; i like you but i also like this other guy maybe he's better i don't know , il keep in touch with you in case the other guy sucks.

you can game or do that for fun.... but if your seriously trying to get the girl back then i have to say '' get a life''

1. you broke up for a reason
2. she is eating from 2 bowls
3. she doesn't know what she wants, if she doesn't know then how in earth could you know what she wants
4. your wasting your time

your manipulating her, it isn't a good base for a relationship.

she isn't any good man

she wants you back and give you another shot ... wtf does that means ? why in earth did she broke up in the first place ?

my opinion is that you should screen the other guy .. joking

girls who like to be bounced back and forth like baseballs are often baseballs.

are you being played .... yes .. indirectly .. because by playing and manipulating her into something your manipulating yourself.
because you are forcing her into a choice and after a few weeks she maybe realize that she doesn't want this.

it could totally backfire

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get a different girl.. you dated, lived together. you broke up.. it didn't work out. it doesn't matter..

I normally would tell you go try again or something, but you already have had a relationship with that girl, and know its a dead end.. Meet other girls, and you'll forget about her asap, just like what probably happened with the girl before her and the girl before her too. Love is nothing but emotional dependency... if the other guy wants to go all out like that... let him do his thing.. you've already went out with her and lived her, she knows you too well to game her.. However, the only thing you can prove to her is that you don't need her..she's probably never seen that side of you before, and will probably have second thoughts about you after that "honeymoon" phase is over.. This is cliche, but if its meant to be then it will..

Thanks, I get what you guys are saying. Deep down I felt that way but needed someone to say it to cross the bridge into realization.

It's the first time I've been dumped so i've been struggling with new emotions, and probably wanted revenge on her more than I wanted to do something for myself.
After reading your guy's post, I realized that I don't really care. I'm gonna build a life and make it into what I want. Everything will fall into place after that.

HOORAY, good thing it didnt take you that long to see this !

Good luck bro.

Chillburg