Still new to the PUA forums.

I met the girl I've been hanging out with now about 3 months ago. We've been talking, texting, going out together for the last month or so. She just stayed over for the first time this past weekend and things went pretty well.

My gut read is she is pretty needy, but is trying very hard not to show it. I like her and have fun being with her, but definitely don't need her. I've gone through my process of escalation and we've built up a connection between us.

The confusing part is whenever I see her she says give me a call later, or I tell her I'll call her later and then when I do...she doesn't answer. And what really throws me is when we hangout it's obvious she is having a lot of fun, but it seems like she likes to give me a run when I try to call her. She's what I would call a little bit of a "church" girl, very polite. Like I said she stayed over, but there was no sex, which is fine with me for now.

So, my question is. How many times can I call her and her not answer before I say "screw this" and move on. I'm already getting sick of doing it. It really feels like she is doing this to show she's not needy, because her actions and other texts show that she is. Do I say something or just see if she changes?

First off, you have known eachother for 3 months, have been hanging out this past month, and nothing has happened? That's not a good start. From what you are saying, it sounds as though you are her bitch. Sure, she has fun with you, but that doesn't mean that she wants to sleep with you. It really seems like she's playing you.
Based on your question, I am assuming she is ignoring you right now and won't respond to you?
If that's the case, DO NOT TALK TO HER! Don't call her, don't text her, don't email her. You are the one that seems needy. You say you're not, but really? It sure seems like it to her at least.
So, wait until she calls/texts you. If she doesn't, you know what's up.
GL man.

Hey there and welcome,

You're on the right path, but dont tell her! I made the mistake of doing something similar. You will make yourself too available by saying something about it and you will be very vulnerable.

You're getting sick of it, then why not stop it? Freeze her out a little (dont say you'll call her, or just dont call her). Let her work for it. Like you said, you don't need this girl right?

Thanks for the responses, I understand and agree with them both to a certain point.

I have no problem with freezing the girl out. And I guess this is my next step.
We've hung out a couple times over the last month, she's had to switch her work schedule and drive an hour and a half each time. So, to me this seems like a huge IOI...right? And typically she's the one who asks me to call her and even reminds me what her work schedule is...thus the reason for my confusion. I tried calling her once yesterday, the day she asked me to call her, with no response.

This weekend when we hung out I point out a cool restaurant on our drive back to my place, said I wanted to go sometime and asked if she was in...she said yes.

Freeze out it is. So, looks like I wait for her to make contact with me again. How straightforward can I be with girls. I've never tried this before, but when she contacts me can I just say stop playing games and answer my calls when you ask me to call or I'm done hanging out with you. Good or bad idea????

bad idea, you dont want to give her an ultimatum...that will definitely scare her off..
Freeze her out, see other women, make her come back crawling. If she calls you and asks you why you stopped calling, tell her you've given up on calling her because she never picks up the phone anyway. But dont make it sound whiney, just say it.
Dont say stuff like "dont play games with me" because that just confirms that you were willing to play her game all along (well, until now that is, but still a bad move).

She's the one playing your game from now on bro.

Good luck,

Chillburg