Hello,

I'm kinda new on this forum, and just starting to learn the PUA-method of picking up girls. But I am in a weird situation.

I've met a girl, couple weeks ago, because she knows a friend of my. When I first saw her, I laughed my friend out, because she wasn't a type of girl you want to see in daylight.

Couple days after, we were talking on msn, and my friend added the girl in our conversation. And since then I am always talking to her, sending text messages and stuff, non stop. And weird enough, I really started to love that girl.

But she is so crazy in love with my friend, but he doesn't want her, but still she is desperate and keep sending him text messages..

After like 2 weeks sending like 200 text messages, and always talking on msn I really don't know what to do. I always drop a neg on her, and pretty harsh one's but she can laugh with it.. and damn I love that smile ;p

I told my friend how I feel about her, and I dunno.. I asked my friend to act like a teenager and ask if she feels anything for me.. Stupid move though, she told him she sees me like a friend. And since then, she acted strange and I told her it wasn't a big deal, and she says she would still be friends. But then she didn't say something to me for like 2 weeks. (We talked for like 5 minutes if she wanted to come with me and that friend to do something, and she did. But it wasn't like before sending text messages and talking for ours on msn and stuff)

But I can't understand, we where always laughing and stuff, sending like every 2 minutes a text message for over 2 weeks.. It felt to good to be true. She is very young, 15 and I'm 18. So there isn't a big gap between our age, but when you're 15 you think like a teenager, cause she is one..

Well, 3 days ago she started talking back again, saying she is bored and she feels strange. And since that day she starts sending text messages, talking on msn.. 2 days ago she was with me when I was playing poker with some friends.. Laughing and stuff just like before.

Well, that's the situation. Fucking long, I know, but I really don't know what to do. I ain't desperate and sending her pathetic messages or something, I act just cool. I never start talking to her, she always starts the convesation. I know what I did wrong, no seduction.. Always harsh negs..

I don't know what to do to make this all good. I'm in a comfort zone, but more like a best friend, not like my friend when she ask him why he didn't kiss her and stuff..

A little help here please ;p


Kind regards,
Kyoshin



Ps: hello to the "friend", don't piss your pants if you read this ^^

Another guy wearing his heart on his sleeves !!! WHT IS WITH YOU GUYS !! You are chasing this girl where in she should be the one chasing you. I couldnt go through the torture of reading your entier story but I know what the hell this is all about !!!

I'd say GET A LIFE & stop all contacts with this girl. Let her initiate contact. You are going crazy for a girl over IM ! Get out of your house and meet new women.

He wants to ditch the girl so.. And I ain't chasing her. After 2 weeks of nothing, she contacts me.

My friend told me exactly the same thing. I don't feel bad or anything, i just want that girl cause she's special, not beautiful.

I've got 2 girls chasing me SPAM, and still meeting others. But they are a 8 and 1 is definitely a 10. And I am having fun. So don't think I am pathetic waiting for this girl. :)

being 'the friend' of the story and into PUA for about a year, that's pretty much the same i was hammering on all the time.. i'm happy someone else could confirm.

He knew i was into PUA for a year, but he always thought it was 'faking yourself'.. laughing at me when i was talking 'dhv/ioi' & stuff.. well now i'm happy he saw the true story behind all of this, and what it's all about.

i would say the only response you got here is the right one. needs to be that hard to make you understand 'wtf' you are doing.. hope you finally realised it


only thing that would work here, for one that she stopped texting me and second, a reframing after exams+hollidays when a whole new school cycle starts..

she told you she's bored...now what does that make you? a source of entertainment...that's not what you are..you should be her object of desire.

Text her less (yeah i know she always initiates). Tell her you're getting bored of texting so much and that you should hook up in real life.

Then, game her. Ask your friend for advice or read a book or this forum.