So, I have been talking to this girl I met I number closed on the street. We have been talking for about 2 weeks. She had a boyfriend, but I did a boyfriend destroyer and now they are broken up. Now I am giving subtle hints that I want to escalate things. She reacts well but THEN, this is exactly what she says..."I don't want guys in my life haha (fake laugh). There is always someone but I don’t want anyone romantically".

I’m thinking what I need to do is shows some DHV's but I’m not sure. Any suggestions?

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I don't call if failure, I call it feedback

That sounds to me like girl code for "I just want someone to fuck me." Forge on, sir.

Wow, maybe. Ill have to play my cards carefully if so. thanks for that point of view.

I think she might be a bit confused too. Girls get defensive after a breakup.

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I don't call if failure, I call it feedback

Yeah, this could be someone looking for a friend with benefits. Or, it could mean that she's interested in you but just needs time to recalibrate after leaving her last relationship because she wants to make sure you're not a rebound but actually something real.

I've been going out a lot lately with a girl I met a few weeks ago, and we have a blast together but one night when I went to kiss her she said she couldn't. Without anger or hurt, just curiosity (because at that point all I could think was, "Okay, well, how can I learn from what just happened?") I asked, "Did I misunderstand?" and she said, "No...my last relationship ended very badly and I just need time." Normally I'd think a girl was dicking me around when she said that, but I know she went through hell with her last breakup. We've been out since then, and on several occasions she's made it clear that I shouldn't think she was trying to push me away or mess with my head, that she's genuinely interested and she doesn't trust easily right now and she wants to be absolutely sure when she takes the next step. I don't blame her, I believe her, I know she's not seeing anyone else, and I think she's worth it, so I'm playing along on her time. (Though I did disclose that in the meantime I'm casually seeing others.)

Maybe that's what's going on with this girl too. The trouble about running a boyfriend destroyer is that you run the risk of snagging on a situation where the girl doesn't wanna feel like a whore by jumping right onto the next guy and needs time to figure out what's going on and whether she wants you for a rebound fling or more. Maybe that's what this is, and maybe you should just ask her straight out. If that's what's going on then the next move, of course, depends on whether you feel like she's worth the wait.