Met HB last saturday, she was giving me so many IOI's I swear even a blind man could see them. I aproached the group, opened. Ignored target. Befriended everyone then talked to target. Within 15mins we bounced to the next pub arms around my target.

You could pretty much call us an instant couple. We bounced to another pub and spent the next couple of hours together until closing time. Closing time she was like come to the street party next friday with me. I'm like for sure. K-close which lasted ages.

So I've been msging back and forth all was so very perfect until wednesday I got no response. Then yesterday no response. Now I'm sitting here a few hours before the street party wondering what an earth could have possibly gone wrong. It doesn't make sense.

Typical I've somehow managed to go from 100% female to male interest to 0%.

Wish me luck for tonight. I'm gonna try msging again and calling when i'm at the street party. Other than that I am so friggin confused right now, like I think it'd be better if I never met her [sigh of dissapointment].

You're on the right track with what to do. Hopefully she doesnt just flake out on you anymore. Good job on going for the bounce/instant date to build rapport and seal up the kiss close.

One thing that I'd like to add before next time is that when you have that much going for you with a girl. In addition to getting the kiss close make sure to go ahead and setup a Day 2 then for a few days later. The girl is hot for you right then, she's caught up in the moment, setup the date! That will help on a large precentage of flakes because you don't have to setup the date just confirm it.

~Jon

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Cheers JSmooth. I didn't end up making any more contact and I'm really glad... Guess what, my luck is screwed. She was just out of a relationship.

I went to the street party. Drove past the club and she was out the front, saw me and my mates drive past and made a run for it. Went over to chat and she pretty much ran away lol. Talked to her friends but they didn't say much.

Walked to the next pub a little later, she was there. She avoided me and then left. I said hi to her as she left, and she just muttered hi with no smile and walked out.

What The Fuck.

Turns out she is back with her ex. Holy fucking shit I have the worst luck with HB's. I garuantee you will not find as many curve balls as I have in my life.

Lol. Funny how I blew this simple interaction between us completely out of proportion. I was so in but now i'm so out.

My purpose in life is as a warning to others. So learn from me and hopefully nothing as fucked up happens to you guys.... and if does than learn to deal with it.

Saturday night is another night, bring it on!

I've been thrown some huge curve balls man. Some of my field reports were pretty crazy too man! Glad you have the attitude that its another night to make some magic happen. That's what you have to do is just keep going. My motto, "Some will, some won't, so what, NEXT!"

Jon

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Hey Antic,

This is a CLASSIC case of a form of buyers remorse. MM, which Mystery based firmly on ACTUAL social psychology, tells us that even if she has a boyfriend she will INSTINCTIVELY choose the male that she thinks gives her the best chance of survival and replication or S and R. (Essentially, every girl is hard wired to protect herself and her genes)

I obviously DON'T know all the details man, and I swear to God it is far from my intention to insult you here. But the answer to this equation is he clearly had a stronger frame. I.E... he represented greater S and R value to her.

Again, I'd need all the details of the field report to accurately analyze just where you went wrong.

But there's already a great clue in your post. If we look back over it.

You said she asked you to the street party and you responded " I'm like for sure"
This was instant compliance on your part, which is a major DLV.

You also referred to yourself as "An instant couple" = this suggests you were DLV'ing.

Sadly, rarely is there such a thing as an instant couple or MUTUAL love at first sight, anything along those lines is an instant red flag, contrary to what's been popularized by pop culture. Always keep them chasing you.


As... she was simply testing you my friend.

I know it felt awesome, and real, and all that, to the point that I must be wrong in this assessment, but we've ALL been there and had this one happen. As a pua we LEARN to do things, like compliance tests, and woman actually do the EXACT same things only instinctively.

Good news is, why the many methods you hear about on forums like this one works, is because some of us men figured out how to use a woman's instinctive programming against them. (Geez, I sound like I'm selling something)

But this shit is INVALUABLE if you haven't already read one of Mystery's books, I'd highly recommend it, and then I skip to the part dealing with buyer's remorse, then flip to C1,2,3, about building comfort.

Than really, really, really, read, about bait-hook-release as this is where you really went wrong. Keep... her... chasing...you! Can't stress that enough, it's paramount.

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I put a field report up over here for anyone interested
viewtopic.php?p=304337#304337

I texted her just before for shits and giggles. "You're acting as though we've been married and divorced 2 times and we're still fighting over what to name our 3rd kid. It's no big deal. I still think we should call him Basil."

Ha ha, that text cracks me up! (I modified it from another text I saw on this site.)

I LOVE how people write paragraphs as to why you didnt get texted/ called back.

Ever stop and consider that her phone might be dead?

Nothings says "Turn-Off" like the gal turning on her tele. to find 26 messages from you in the span of a few days.

(Not saying this is why she didnt return your texts, but its always a possibility)

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Thanks for this man definately explains a few things. I gotta keep in mind that even when they are totally into me I have to make it seem like they will lose me at any moment.

I'm confident, funny and good looking. What more does a HB want? They want what they can't have! I'm hard to get from a chicks perspective but from her perspective I was too easy to get. By complying I am DLVing myself.

BAIT, HOOK, RELEASE. Ok bring it on!

Hey Antic,

YEAH, you got it man!

You're the catch, not her bro. It's not wishful thinking and it's NOT propaganda. Let people say what they want to say.

The social psychology behind MM is factual. We've ALL seen a freakin' HB10 with a fat SLOB! Most people in the world shrug it off and say he must be rich, and think no more of it. It stops there.

EVEN IF HE IS RICH, has anyone ELSE in the world stopped to ponder just why this is normal? I mean, as a guy, could you marry (with a pre-nup) a super rich woman that was DISGUSTING, knowing that you were going to spend the rest of your life only mating with her???

If you would, you'd either be hoping she'll die, or you're cheating on her, OR lastly, it's just your fetish, (hey, I mean some dudes aren't even into woman at all)
So we're talking averages here, not exceptions to the rule.
Basically:

Most woman WOULD date a rich fat slob.
Most men WOULD NOT date a rich fat slob.

So, what's the difference?
It's our biological programming. Our instinct for finding a mate. A man is primarily attracted to a young, supple, fertile, female and the things that subconsciously reminds us of this. I.E.... Hip to waste ratio, breast size etc...

Woman are primarily attracted to a strong supporter with the best resources to provide for her and her offspring.

It's simple science. All you got to do is flip those switches that tells her subconscious you have better resources to provide for her than anyone else.

FREAKING OVERWHELMING, at first. The mystery method breaks it down, and makes it easy.

Keep her chasing you. You're the catch.

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