i met a 7.5 last week were meeting up tonight, not sure for what yet... drinks, food? one of those

anyways how should i handle the issue of paying?

I'll LOOK like a chump if I pay
OOOO The Fear HAHAHA I'd love to let you go crazy thinking about this issue on your own.

As long as she's not coming because you said "Hey lets go to dinner" or "A Movie" or "A drink" (Like a True AFC)
Then she's going to expect you to pay and if you don't then you'll look like a Chump for not being the man and making her have to pay after you were the one to invited her.

But it seems she wants to generally hang out with you just for you
Add to the spontaneity figure out where you want to go first
Lets Say you choose DRINKs
and when she gets your you place or you go to her place say "Hey I'm thirsty let go somewhere right now"(Do this in a sense kinda like your tossing her over you shoulder and running with her)
Not telling you to toss her over your shoulder. If it were Me I would most likely do it but thats just Me.

(When you're actually in the bar not before)
Tell her I got the first one you got the second round

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generally if you're the one who picked her up and it wasn't just a mutual thing from the start then you're paying buddy, soem girls will offer but that last thing you want to do is look like a deushbag

i called her yesterday and i was like tomorrow im gonna be in a city near hers visiting someone and we should get together after ... this was on her machine

she called back and left a message

so i called today and SHE said do you want to get together for a drink or coffee and im like Yeah

so thats where im at right now

do what I do.

If you're going with the C&F route, then when the
check comes, throw it near her.

Guage her reaction.

She'll either laugh and pay, or laugh and sit there.

if she just sits there, laugh and say

"I'm just kidding, let's split it." Then take out your
card/cash to pay for your half.

If she says she has no money, then reluctantly pay
and make sure she knows that she owes you one.


If you go for drinks and food, tell her to pick up the
drinks and you'll take care of the food.

Don't be a sucker and pay without giving her a
little playful neg. Definitely don't drop the line..

"I insist!" lol

priceless john.. she did invite you for coffee so it was her idea

A rule I set for myself is that the one who takes the other person somewhere pays. That is if it's cheap, if it's a little more expensive like a restaurant I'll always split the costs.

What I will do is invite the HB out, have her come over my house. I invite her in for a few mins and then rush her out (at this point im working towards SNL). At this point I have no invited her anywhere, So I tell her that I'm hungry thirsty what ever and we should go some where. We go and then either right before or when the check comes I play a game with her to see who is going to pay. Usually i have already planned on pay but i don't want her to think that I'm just gonna let her get away with that LOL. So I'll play the 5 question game if i haven't already or the 5 statement game, if were at a bar I'll do some type of bar trick. This goes over really really well. I'm going out with a buddy of mine who is not at all a PUA this Wednesday with a few girls i met so that should be interesting, and i will most likely post a field report. hope this helps ya. just make sure she is not EXPECTING you to pay, and if she is flip it around onto her without her knowing