| Here's my point of view if it's worth anything. Ok if I end up getting a woman's number in a bar, I send her a text right then and there, right in front of her, with my name on it. I just send my name. That's all.
Then as far as being bored, yeah I might text women, just a simple, hey whats up and have conversations. I don't hit on them, I just act normal. I don't do the whole waiting ten minutes thing or nothing like, I just text when I feel like it, so its random. Like some woman called me 4 hours ago, I haven't returned her phone call, why, because I just don't want to talk on the phone right now, it's so much work, you know, I gotta pick that thing up, and then I gotta hit the button, then I gotta say hey and listen to her.... Na, I'm probably not going to call her back today, haven't even listened to the voicemail. Why? Because I don't want to bother with it right now. And if she ask me out, I don't wanna drive 20 minutes, I'm staying in my house tonight.
Though I do have to say this, if when you get a text if you get excited, then you need to let that go. It's more important how you react to a text then anything else in my opinion. SO yeah at the beginnign I recommend letting go of that emotion of excitement, so eventually you will find times when you just completely forgot some woman text you. This is more about being free than anything else and not letting exterior scenarios control you. This will also lead to what the other guys are talking about, the randomness, since your not being controlled by it, you'll be more random.
Now, getting women over to your house for the first date. Here's what I do, and I've done this multiple times with women and some of which I only talked to for 5 minutes. Usually in my experience, they text things like Hey whats up, or hey. In which if I'm in the mood to have a woman over, I'll text back something like "O just hanging out at the house, playing a video game, kind of boring but you can come over if you want." <--- notice I am underselling, never ever oversell, if you oversell you're coming from a place of having to convince her to come over instead of believing that she can't wait to see you.
The trick to this, believing it's possible and normal and being comfortable with it. It's all about being comfortable. Remember to undersell, super important. Hope that's somewhat useful. I know there's not a lot of technical stuff in there, I'm more mindset and belief orientated, so that the behaviors will come naturally and without thinking about it.
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