| He's right. As someone with very good floor game, even if you're charismatic and the best dancer in the joint, just from the fluid nature of nightclubs, there's almost always an opportunity for someone else to try and bust in on your game. Doesn't necessarily mean you're sunk.
I pick up 99% of my girls while out dancing, and almost never do we spend the entire evening together. Sometimes we'll just spend a short while together upon meeting, I'll close and move on, and aside from a quick goodbye at the end of the night, that's all we interact that first time. I prefer not be monopolized by one person when I go out dancing, so an ideal floor pickup for me is 60 or 90 minutes with a girl spread out through the entire evening in chunks, where we break apart for whatever reason but repeatedly end up back together for a while. Now, do I worry while we're apart? No. But I do occasionally, while wandering and interacting, keep an eye out in case there's an ideal moment where she might become free again, and I'll make my way back over.
One of the reasons I prefer the 'repeated exposure in short bursts' approach is that when it's at its best (which, in a crowded club, is just as much intentional effort as pure chance), it starts to feel like a "fate" sort of thing, where no matter how many times you break apart or how many others try to distract you, you always end up being brought back together. Even if she's super interested, she doesn't worry if you wander off or she gets pulled away, because it feels inevitable that you'll meet up again and she's meant to give you that number and stay in contact after tonight. I also like it because since it's done in small chunks of time in between other things, it feels less exhausting and pressured than spending 90 minutes together in club all at once, and you can keep things extra light and fun while somehow making it seem like you've spent more time together than you really have, like several mini-dates in one night.
I go off and dance with other girls...sometimes I pick them up as well. She notices--trust me, they always notice, and it's pure value. She goes off and dances with other guys, and sometimes they succeed with her as well. That's really fine with me; if I have her number I can later set up a scenario without all those guys around and then prove myself just fine. So can you. I know I have something they don't, and she sees that I'm curiously unpossessive.
If you can't dance, perhaps try to pick up some moves--never hurts. But even if you can't, sounds like you're on the right track to good floor game. Don't get worried because another guy appears to be AMOGing you on the floor. It's a club, and the girls come to dance. Doesn't mean you're not still in her sights, and at some point an opportunity to get back to her will probably present itself. In the meantime, take your game elsewhere.
Think of clubs not as a place to zero in on one girl and chill--too much stimuli, and the whole SPAM is kind of set up to inhibit things like that. Think of clubs instead as a wonderful sampler platter. You don't need to spend the whole evening a girl to get ahead with her, and you really can't keep her from every other guy. She gets hit on when she's NOT at the club too, and you can't prevent that, so don't worry while you're there. If you prove yourself properly, you're good, and if she likes you, she'll come back to you. If not, there are others.
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