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So I've been dating this (in- and outside)HB10 for 7 weeks now and I'm madly in love.
The problem is, I told her a week ago that I loved her...I just had to say it because I feel that way and I couldn't keep it to myself anymore.
Her response: I don't understand how you can love someone after such a short time..
So that hurt a little but I got over it, I'm not saying it again until she says it first.
Now we used to see each other 5 times a week but this week I have only seen her once on Sunday (its Thursday now). I've been trying to get her to come over but she's in her exams and she has to go to work a lot. Even 5 minutes of seeing her would be good enough for me, but she thinks that's silly.
We used to send like 50 text messages a day to each other that we miss each other and random stuff but I tried to limit that by not texting her that much, only that is kind of backfiring on me, since she hardly texts anymore as well.
Yesterday I felt like something was wrong because she seemed less interested and I asked her if she still wanted to see me, because she's busy till Friday and I can't see her this weekend so it will be Monday and that is a REALLY long time for me...I miss her badly. She said I shouldn't worry because she's just busy. I told her I just had that feeling and that I didn't want to be clingy but I just care for her a lot. She said it was alright but that she still doesn't understand how I can be so in love with her, and that she felt a bit bad that she doesn't feel the same way, but she doesn't fall in love with people easily and she really likes me and likes spending time with me. I told her that's okay and it will come and she thinks and hopes so too.
After that I told her "lets forget about all the texting tonight, it's all good" and we went on with our usual random texting that night and she told me she'd try to come sunday instead of monday, so that's good I guess.

Now, I know I've acted complete AFC...she's broken every confidence I had in my PU abilities and I became a wad of cookie dough in her hands (though i never let her control me).
I want to ask you guys, do you think it's too late and that I fucked up, or that I can still reframe this situation and put me back in control? And if so, how? What would you guys do.
I know a lot of you will say "move on" but I don't want to lose this girl because I haven't felt this way about someone in 6 years and she's perfect for me. This is my first relationship in years and I just don't know how to act..

Your help/thoughts/advice would be greatly appreciated

neh it's not that afc tho ..... i wouldn't worry too much

hahaha.... i told my GF that i love her ... after 2 weeks LOL how about that .... and im still on top of the relationship.

i actually don't love her that much ... it's the moment , what i do is '' i care about her ''' i reframed

however im a little bit distant .. i don't text much i don't respond ASAP and i do my own shit. meaning i don't see her 3 times a week i only see her 1 or 2 times.....

tell her you don't really love her like you've said but you care about her ... you picked a wrong set of words and you don't want to put her under pressure.

also stop loving her .... get over her while dating her.. it sounds weird but this way you become way less needy.
don't make her the center of the universe ... god didn't do that neither should you
why is that a backfire ???? it only sounds bad because you think it's bad..... i mean txt so many times a day ... FUCK ME .... thats alot , i text my girl 2 times day ... somtimes we don't text at all. you stop texting so did she .. it isn't bad and stop making a big point - she onl;y did she same thing you did.
she sounds way more bussy than you THATS AFC ..... i mean you sound like you got nothing to do so you txt her etc..
she wants to hear an explanation .....


she cares about you and so forth but she doesn't want to commit seriously yet......


if you really got a hard time... and the urge to txt is big ... you can text with me , you can even text me a sexual txt message ! how about that!

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I was kinda hoping you'd pick up on the topic because on other threads we give the same advice to other people I just couldnt think rationally in my own situation.

You're right, I will tell her next time in person that I chose the wrong words to say that I love her and I will explain what it is I feel for her.
I decided not to text her today and she just texted me to see if i can meet up on friday.
If I meet up with her on friday even though she first said she couldnt, is that too much adjustment from me if I give in? Is that a weak frame? I really want to see her but I feel that I appear not so needy if I tell her i cant see her then.

and sure bro ill slip you some sexual texts

Mate just stay calm, Pua's often study this shit so much they end up overdoing it and messing it up because they do too much of the "right" thing.

If you want to see her on friday, say yes!! you can be a "man" when you meet her! Showing her your a strong independent Alpha male will be much more effective if you go and do it in person rather than saying "no i can't see you then" and you two start to slowly drift apart.
If your really bothered about buying into her frame too much, wait until she says a time and tell her an hour later instead because you have stuff to do at that time. That way you both have some input in the situation, remember this isn't a random pick-up any more, you've been dating, so it needs input from the both of you to make it work.

Try not to dwell on the bit where you told her you loved her too much either, your a man, if that was the way you were feeling then fine, never apologise for feeling good about someone, sure you can explain if you really feel bad about it that you just care about her, but make it short and snappy and get on with having a good time with her. She'll appreciate it much more that your not scared of your feelings but you understand where she's coming from as well. And that your willing to just move on, taking it slowly and not pressuring her.

In my opinion you can text as much as you want, me and my girlfriend text a lot everyday, if you have to something to talk about then do it! it's bonding, theres nothing wrong with it, However it does get bad and needy if your just texting for the sake of texting, if theres nothing good to say, just leave her to it. You want to be associated with interesting, funny meaningful conversations, and if you two really get on, that will come naturally. However you don't want to be another guy thats just saying "hey babe what you up to?" all the time, because thats unoriginal, boring and it will put you with the million other men that have tried to get her to talk in the past.

All this is just my opinion on what would help of course, you know yourself better than i do, and you know her better than i do, so just relax and trust yourself.

Hope it all works out for you mate!

JSolo

Just my two cents/opinion. I will be the first to admit that I could be wrong but this is how I see it:

The lesson here to me is : women love a challenge. Things were building up and then, by telling her you love her - I think this girl got turned off. Kinda of like having sex too soon. It's an unfortunate reality but people want what they cant have. She knows she has you now so that can be a real turn-off to alot of women.

If she is an HB10, you gotta understand that these chicks are so acccustom to guys throwing themselves at them she is always shit-testing looking for phonies. When you told her you love her, alot of girls like to say this first (at least in my experience - not that I am some big player/PUA)

Dont get me wrong: I dont think you did anything wrong by expressing your true feelings. In a real world, that ought to be respected.

Here's my advice and again, I aint no expert but I think : you should tell her that you think you two should be friends and then, dont see her or call her for a few weeks and tell her this - that you need to move on. I know its risky but if you are willing to walk away, it should show her you are strong and willing to walk away if someone treats you bad. And to me, she has.
Dude, by telling her you love her, you gave her something - she shouldnt be acting aloof about that. She should be appreciative. I think she ought to be punished. It might sound like backwards wisdom but in my experience, the women I have dated will usually want you badly after that.

When it is all said and done, if she lets you go, I dont think it would have worked. At the end of the day, she should be thrilled that you told her you loved her. Some girls love the challenge and once they have you or know you love them, they move on to the next guy. In my experience anyways. Whatever you decide : Best of luck man. I can feel the pain .....An HB10 hurts ....But if she doesnt work, trust me - there will be others

there is no such thing ... you already won her over. and HB 10 is obsolete term, it's bullshit all the woman are the same.

my girl is a HB 10 .... it's true that they shit test alot .. you know why ?

because HB 10's have alot of guys kneeling at their feet.. HB 10's are often way more emotional traumatized or screwed up , because they get way more relationships and sexual relationships.
Hb 10s also get rewarded for having bad behaviour, chodes buy them drinks and the girls say fuckoff this often extend into relationships.

having a relationships with a HB 10 isn't different than a HB 6 or HB 7 they all want the same ... they all want dick and all want attention and affection.
don't treat them like a princess ... treat yourself as a princess first because you are the most important person in the relationship.

guys often go like '' but this girl i met she is hot'' or '' my GF is hot isn't she damn im lucky to hookup with such girl'' total bullshit ....... go out sarging with your HB 10 as wing and see how fast you can get a new HB 10.
you really have to ignore the fact she's hot ..... she might be thinking the same of you otherwise she wouldn't fuck you.

thing is HB10s get masses of attention .. if you give in to quick they often reward you with bad behaviour.
this is a strategy ... but i think you shouldn't say this .. why ?

1. you already got feelings and you are doing the opposite when saying this
2. thats why you feel guilt sooner or later.
3. she could be very pissed and angry and maybe hook up with another guy.
4. if she accept the fact that you are friends and she decides to stick to friendship your fucked - you already love her more - she loves less so it's easier for her to remain friends while you are gettting frustrated.

don't give her wrong ideas.

and when you meetup friday .... say it like this:

she : you can come friday
me : well ... i don't know i got alot of things to do
she : oh , are you very bussy
me: yeah well wait a minut i need to make some calls, i call you back ok

call her later on and tell her you have made some time for her, just act like your bussy and got alot of things around you.

i don't know if you've fucked her yet .. be sure to fuck her soon !

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