(Sorry for making such a huge post, but this shit literally keeps me up at night)

I get approached by girls around twice a night. I've been sarging about 6 times with this PUA group. First time I went out with them 3 weeks ago, I got my ass grabbed by 1 girl, had some girl chat me up and attempt to get her picture taken with me, another shit tested me out of nowhere, and these two other girls high fived me saying that they thought I looked great tonight. I got caught off guard as hell and tried to get out of the situations ASAP because I literally had no idea what to say to that kind of shit (nice attention, honestly). I could describe how I fucked up several more approaches by these brave female souls, but I'll save you the details and skip to the most recent/pathetic one.

Last time we were out this friend of a 9 told me that the 9 wanted to dance with me and I BLEW it with the 9 because my conversational material was boring as fuck "durr hi my name's ch4mp where did u go to college" crap. That combined with the fact that I'm a bad dancer and my other wing coming in at the wrong time resulted with us both getting out competed by these jocks on the dance floor. What I should've done was teased the friend of the 9 that she looked liked she was the bearer of bad news when she approached me and given her some pointers on her wing girl skills, or maybe even tell her I wished she (the friend of the 9) asked me to dance. FUCK man, I could've created some sweet rivalry by dancing with the friend of the 9 briefly.

When I talked to the 9, I should've just opened by saying "do you think I bite?" (OR *tap her on the shoulder* "I think it's adorable that you got your friend to ask me to dance for you, I could just stick you in my pocket and show you to my grandma") and then told her she's gonna have to teach me to dance b/c I don't go out, I'm gay. She would've gotten aggressive during dancing and I could've escalated fast and told her I make exceptions sometimes.

This is so bizarre b/c I have no problem gaming girls I approach, but when they do it to me, it's like my mind blanks out because we're not going through my normal routine. I've spent most of my life oblivious to the signals that girls send and the actual intent of approaches. After starting PUA, I realized that girls have been approaching me my entire life and only the super intent/aggressive ones got anywhere at all because at one point I was completely unaware of eye contact, body language, or anything like that. I used to think eye contact was something aggressive 4 weeks ago, WTF and I'd avert my gaze whenever someone looked at me.

One of my wings is starting to get jealous and thinks I'm a pussy or something, and I don't really want this attitude to be prevalent amongst our lair, haha. I probably could've potentially closed, or even banged, those 12 approaches and this fucking keeps me up at night and distracts me at work. Tomorrow night, I want to at least kclose one of these nice girls that approaches me out of nowhere.

So basically, do I start in A3 with these women?

A lot of people would kill to be in that kind of situation all the time because you already know she's interested. These should be the easy ones because you can skip a lot of steps. The key word here is escalation. So you want to put in some comfort , isolate her and escalate. No need for complicated routines here.

One of the things I do when approached (if she's cute):

-Hey I like the way you were confident to approach me, not a lot of girls do that you know, what's your name? Let's go to the bar (or another place) so you can tell me more about yourself. (You can get straight to the point because she will be interested). From here on escalate!! Get the kiss in and see how far you can go.

Oh yeah don't forget kino escalation!

Works a lot for me.

alright, man, I AM doing that tonight. thank you.

i had the same problem. i'd get ass slaps and ass grabs. Sometimes i even miss who do it. Some girls are too shy to let themselves get caught. I'm quicker on the head turn now though.

It always threw me off guard so i came up with a solution. Now I say, "Hey, i don't just let anyone grab my ass. Its kinda like drinking... I never drink with someone I don't know. What was your name? My names ____." Its a slight neg at the beginning so say with a smile. I think it provides a more valid excuse for asking what her name is too. Thats my style. If it fits you use it.