About a month ago I met this girl in one of my classes. I didn’t really think of her as a target till she approached me before class one day. After that day she wrote me a note in class telling me her name and email saying I should look her up on facebook. I added her and we chatted a few times online. Because the class meets once a week and I could not make a few of those classes it somewhat limited my opportunity of seeing her in person, so asked her out on facebook. I told her to come over to watch Monday night football one day. Her initial response was yeah and she told me how she liked me. So the next time I saw her in class we ended up sitting next to each other. We pretty much just flirted the whole entire time we were in class. Kino was through the roof. She was grabbing hold of my arm and writing on my papers and saying some dirty stuff lol. It made the people who sat around us very uncomfortable but I didn’t give a shit and she didn’t either. Well the class meets Mondays so I asked her after class if she was still was coming over her answer was just like straight up no. I was like okay whatever and we split. After I got home she sent me a facebook message just repeating something funny I told her earlier that day. I responded a few days later saying that since she totally blew me off that Monday that we should get together some other day. She never responded. Next Monday got in the class a little late and she hadn’t arrived yet. When she walked in class she saw that there were no open seats around me and called me an asshole and sat a few rows away. After class I tried talking to her but she just acted really moody, so I was like okay later. Since then she would occasionally send me facebook chat messages about the class and I would start talking to her then she would just leave in the middle of the conversation and not say anything for 20-30 minutes. So anyways I had the class with her today. She sat next to me, since it was an exam day I could really talk to her that much and she left very abruptly after she finished her exam, I tried to catch up to her but she was gone. So im not really sure what to do now, the semester is almost over we don’t have a final so there is no reason to come to class anymore. I think she still likes me and I really want to go out with her but I still don’t have her number so I can’t call her and ask her out. What can I do to save my chances with her?

First Step: Stop giving a fuck about "what is the perfect combination of steps that I need to do in order to get with her."
Worrying about what you should do means that you dont know what you should do. A naturally attractive guy does not worry about what he should do--he just do, it might not be the perfect thing to do but he does it with 100% belief, therefore it is the perfect thing to do.

Step two: It is on. She likes you. Stop being weird and tell her to give you her number. Stop beating around the bush. Jesus. Tell her to come over. and fuck her.

too easy.

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Your problem is that you are too needy. Whenever she is harsh on you, you just accept that. I am not saying you should get angry. Angry is always bad. But if a girl would start talking to me on facebook and then ignore me for 30 minutes, the next time I wouldn't be so talkative with her over facebook. She has to know that there is a line that she can't cross. At this moment you look like a doormat. She can do whatever she wants with you.

One thing I like from reading from Mystery is that you should reward good behaviour but also punish bad behaviour. Of course, don't punish her too hard because if you just are going to ignore her completely nothing is gonna happen. I would do following stuff next time. When I enter class and she sits somewhere, I go sit somewhere far away from her. I wouldn't sit next to her. Then when I get home I would send her a message over facebook. After her reply I would say something like "Got to go. Bye. ", and just close facebook without waiting for any of her replies. The next day in class I would sit next to her again. The trick here is that first she will get upset because you didn't sit next to her, but then you give her an IOI because you started conversation with her on facebook but then suddenly you show disinterest again because you just leave off. But the next day you give her again an IOI because you sit again next to her. This is a combo of IOD-IOI-IOD-IOI.

I tried something like that 2 weeks ago with a girl that I met in a bar. First she was friendly and looked very interested but then suddenly she turned her back towards me and ignored me. (I think she got angry because I replied on a text of a friend while she was talking to me.) So I just went away without saying her anything. (IOD - punishing her for her bad behaviour towards me and showing her that I am willing to walk away from her.). 10 minutes later I came back talked a little bit (IOI) to her in a very friendly way not showing any anger because she turned her back on me, and then I left again (IOD). Afterwards when she passed me, she turned her head towards me, waved at me while smiling with the biggest smile I ever saw. A bit later I was able to game her again in a normal way. So this combo's of IOD and IOI really did the trick.

Yes. Good reply Don.

Basically she's testing you to see how far she can go. Are you gonna take her shit and let her walk all over you, or are you gonna be a man and not play her silly games?

Your basic mistake was to try to re-engage even after she IODed you, showing too much interest in her. She now knows you're more interested than she is, giving her the upper hand and that feeling of power through being wanted that she loves.

Rather than playing a lot of her IOD / IOI games, I would suggest gaming another girl in that same class, even if she's less attractive. If you do the same kind of kino in class, this first girl will clearly see that, and you can start to build a strong jealousy plotline. No doubt she will start giving you IOIs again. From then you can start to cut her fbook chats off abruptly, or not return her texts, or whatever. A little taste of her own medicine will show that you have options and don't need her. The attraction will be built up enough so that you can definitely get a proper day 2, and start to build comfort and seduce from a position of power, rather than submission.