To be frank if he's already fucking her then it's gone past the comfort phase. He's in the post seduction phase imho.

To the OP Taste21 One thing I thought of. Check to see if she is physically or emotionally tired before sex. You may be simply trying at the wrong time. I know if I'm tired no amount of coaxing is going to work. She might be the same.

Maybe you can try to work things that you're having sex on your sides which could lead to you rolling her on top. Lead her physically but gradually.

Spread Love Ders. It's possible that method of asking or leading to more than you want could work but I have my doubts. For example if you were interested in sex act X and your partner suggests or tries X plus 2 does not mean you'd like it and even be comfortable doing the X plus 1 act.

As for giving her the best night ever. Again I have my doubts this could work.Ok it would be enjoyable for both, but you'd be essentially rewarding behaviour you do not want, and is likely to reinforce it. Also if you make her come like crazy doing one type of sex it doesn't mean she'll suddenly change and want to do other types.Trust me I've been there and it doesn't happen. I think sexual fantasies and approach are very deeply ingrained if not hardwired.

My approach to this problem would be to have sex with her over 5 sessions maximum. Talk and physically lead to find her limits. Work out if those limits are likely to be set solid. If they are solid and non negotiable, work out if you can live with them.If you cannot live with them, then say your goodbyes.

Yeah, I had same girl. Our relationship was really short - about 5, 6 months.

Always I was on her. She was like a tree - No doggystyle, no oral no... nothing! Only Classic position.
I think girl like that is just an ignorants and egoists. But that's not all!
We were making a love without condoms or whatever. She got everytime orgasm but I... maybe two or three times. That was really boring for me.

You need to talk to her. She has to know, that you WANT something from her! If this doesn't make change - next. Remember, it's just my opinion based on my experience.

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You could try slowly working her around into other positions during sex. I used to do it and it worked really well. During foreplay you could get aggressive with her while on top and then roll her over a few times before coming to a stop while she's on top.

Hey dude,

That sucks that she's not adventurous.

If she's not letting you do stuff that's fairly standard, then my advice is to make her well aware that you're not going to take her stubborn ways, and that if she's not going to be more adventurous then you'll move on. It sounds harsh, but otherwise you're just wasting your time, and the inevitable will happen - you'll either cheat on her, or you'll break up. Either way you will break up in the end.

I'd let her know that too - just be real straight up with her - you don't have to be an asshole about it, but communication is the key. Deny her sex if she doesn't comply.



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Choking her out and pulling her hair if done roughly might be crossing the line into abuse. If she's agreed to that sort of thing, that's fine but ask first.

As for getting her to do the work, try taking her doggie, and stop thrusting before her orgasm. She'll start moving if you time it right. From there, change positions and do it all over again. Do it enough, and you could "train" her to take some ownership of the sexual experience. It worked for me.

Im not saying to "choke her out" like to the point of turning purple, but almost every girl i've been with likes it and likes her hair being pulled. Do it as if you are biting her lip. You want it to be sensual, NOT painful. When she's about to have an orgasm is when you want to peak with it. It will make things more sensitive and bigger for her.

I'm not saying this is the absolute solution, but tryint it won't hurt.

I dated a girl and she saw that i was flirting with other girls more than she liked and since then she was just uncomfortable with me in bed. Nothing i tried changed that. For everyone else, it really opened things up.

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sorry for late repy have been busy. but cheers for advice tried a few new things and she has loosened up and dam talking dirty works.
Thanks again to the community